Thursday, August 1, 2013

Look What's Coming...



AND they are taking a survey. Be sure to put in your two cents.

Time has posted part of the article here. So far, so good. Let's hope this article is fair to the childfree and doesn't consist of 3 pages of discussion about whether being childfree is selfish, and what kind of regrets the childfree may have later in life.

Already, the article's author is making the rounds.

UPDATE:  Somebody posted the text of the article here.  Some punctuation mistakes in the re-type, but at least we can read it.

I like the fact that this article touched on some important themes surrounding the childfree lifestyle, such as how our culture is baby/family-obsessed and the opposition and judgement we face, instead of endless paragraphs about selfishness and regret.


9 comments:

phoenixxphyre said...

I imagine it will be fair. I watched a video with the writer and it seems like she's pretty balanced: http://www.cbsnews.com/video/watch/?id=50152093n

HawkMan said...

There's also a book titled "Better Never To Have Been" which argues against pronatalism. I haven't finished it yet, but I'm glad to see these topics being brought up more often. I'm definitely staying CF now that the economy is semiruined, but I'm torn on antinatalism at this point.

Nessie said...

Very positive from what I heard and read. I'm so glad that there is more attention to the real reasons behind being CF instead of focussing on the negative responses from society. Hopefully this article will take on and more people will feel empowered to choose a CF life without the stigma.

claudia said...

The article's great; just finished reading it and can confirm it is very balanced and fair to childfree people.

Dave said...

While I look forward to the article, I hope it doesn't leave out discussion about childfree men (even though CF women are mouch more often the target of criticism).

Steppenwoelfin said...

This is really great, and I took the survey :-)I'm just waiting for this issue of the Time to end up on the family coffee table.
Much as I adore my little nephew, I can see how many difficulties his parents, who are both eager subscribers to the have-it-all lifestyle and who occupy high-powered fulltime positions, are having with raising a child. Only two weeks ago, my exhausted-looking sister-in-law asked my mother in a dead serious tone if having a child was a commitment spanning 20 years or a whole lifetime. I thought she was joking. My mother managed to remain perfectly serious and gently informed her that it was a lifetime deal. My sister-in-law eyed my nephew, who was playing happily in the garden, wearily and said: "Oh well, I have no regrets."

In fact, I was wondering if a post could be written about the "No regrets" phenomenon, when it's so painfully obvious that especially new parents are having second thoughts! Plenty of them!

This blog is really fantastic, and it's great to see so many other like-minded people over here!

Childfreeeee said...

Concerning the research showing that there is a correlation between intelligence and a woman's choice not to have kids, I think the more intelligent a person is, the better able she is to think critically and think for herself. With all of the pressure coming at us and warnings about regret, etc., a person needs to be intelligent enough to recognize that as a crock of shit and stand against the tide. That takes balls, but it also takes brains. So I am not surprised that research is showing that childfree tend to be smarter.

Dave said...

I was glad the article mentioned at least a little bit about the degree of religiousness one woman had (the one in Nashville) although I would have liked to see a study about a correlation between that and being childfree. As an atheist, I am immune to any religious pressures to have a kid although being part of the right demographic (single male, now 50) also contributed greatly to not being pressured, too. I mean, who cares if a single guy in his 30s, 40s, or 50s has kids? LOL

Gail said...

The Guardian mentions Time's cover story and has some interesting comment:

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/aug/07/smart-women-not-having-kids