Thursday, September 6, 2012

The September Perspective



It's September, Labor Day is over and everyone is back to the old rush.  School buses are back on the roads, along with the traffic, and moms everywhere are plastering Facebook with first-day-of-school photos of their kids.  One of my mom friends posted on Monday, "I love my kids with all my heart, but I am soooooo glad they are going back to school tomorrow!"

Yes, back to school comes as a relief to many parents after 3 long months of summer chaos, but as Laura Rowley writes in her Huff Post article, Why September can be the Toughest Month for Working Mothers , September -  a month fraught with its own assortment of parental stressors - is enough to send even the most organized mom off the deep end.

As is always the case when I read articles written by moms about the overwhelming stresses and insecurities of motherhood, I got to the end, shook my head and said aloud, "THANK GOD I had the good sense to avoid this prison sentence!"

For my mom friends, September is a time to get back into the feverish daily pace of Beat the Clock - "How will I get Johnny to soccer at 5:00 when Melissa has to be at softball at the same time?", "Oh no - it's already 9:00 p.m. and I forgot to get to the store to pick up the Lunchables!",  "How in the world am I going to get all of us ready and out the door on time?"  "How many times have I told him to get off the computer and get his homework done!!?"  It's a time for being stretched too thin, worked too hard, living the life of a mouse on a treadmill - spinning wheels and getting nowhere fast for 9 long months.  Following that is summer "vacation", which means 3 months of fun and relaxation for the kids, and nonstop madness for mom.

As a childfree woman, September is a completely different experience.  It's that pretty time of year when the sun sits a little lower in the sky and starts to cast a warm glow over everything.  It's that wonderful month when we can turn the air conditioning off, open the windows and say, "ah....".  It's the best time at the Jersey Shore - the hordes of tourists are gone, but the ocean is at its warmest, the nights are cool and beautiful and the restaurants are still open for business.   It's a time when I still get that little flutter of nervous butterflies and the intense urge to buy myself some notebooks and pens, even though my school days are long gone.  It's my time for setting new personal goals and aspirations, thinking about what new adventures to plan, and feeling excited about the impending fall and winter holidays.

I'll take my September over Laura Rowley's any day!

8 comments:

Allie said...

I agree with everything you said, except for turning the AC off. We usually can't do that here in Alabama until around November. I hate it, but it is what it is I guess.

Elizabeth said...

I totally feel the same way! I was a teacher up until this school year, so back-to-school meant something a little different for me, but still - I am so glad that I didn't have to think about school AT ALL this year!

A friend of our told us that as soon as the school year starts his "life is over" because then it's all about getting the kids to school, soccer practice, birthday parties, etc. I am so glad I get to set MY OWN schedule!

Sara said...

Funny you should put up a picture of a couple on the beach as that is what I'll be doing with my husband for two weeks, starting this coming Saturday. No kids, of course. Just packing up and going...because we can :)

CFVixen said...

Like you, I love Fall so much. It's such a wonderful time of year. And to think that that feeling of peace and wonderment could have been ruined by the addition of kids...well, I'm glad I dodged that bullet!

Robin said...

I don't understand why some people had children in the first place if they're so happy for them to be out of the house.

Stella said...

It's not fall in Texas, either! Haha! It's 105!

Organically Mo said...

I work at a high school, so I do feel more stress as the school year begins, but I am always so thankful that after a crazy day at work I get to come home to a quiet house {or go to the gym, or go shopping, etc}. I listen to my friends who are running their kids around from ballet to soccer to singing lessons, raise a glass of wine in their honor & chug! ;-)

TLewis said...

I second Organically Mo. I work at a University and it's sheer madness for what seems like almost the whole Fall semester. However, I can come home and focus on the things I need to do personally (like homework, or relaxing, or sitting with a cat in my lap). I will say one of the things I love about summer and hate about Fall is the traffic. All the parents driving their kids to school, multiple school zones, etc.