Musings on the Childfree Lifestyle and our Child-Centric Society
I don't know how many Americans there have been in the past 225 years, let's say 400 million. There have only been 44 Presidents (since the Constitution, anyway). So, the odds of your Precious McSnowflake being President are essentially zero. And, given how some of those 44 have behaved, being President isn't such a great thing either. (I'm looking at you, Millard Filmore!)
My family had a huge get-together recently. Being LDS, women are encouraged to marry young and start having babies as soon as possible afterwards. Literally every woman there over age twenty was married, had children, or was pregnant. All the women could talk about was kids and childbirth and diapers and I was just sitting there, bored to tears. The men were little better.I have a girlfriend whom I love very much-though I have yet to tell anyone my little secret (I'm bi-leaning-lesbian). She doesn't want kids. I don't want kids, and I haven't since I was a little girl. Being raised mormon, I was told there was no other choice. I would have to marry a man and be a mother whether I wanted to or not.Now, as a closet atheist, I know better. I plan to get steralised to prevent any unfortunate accidents. I want to finish college. I want to marry my girlfriend at some point, and travel with her. I want to have pets. I want to be happy. My mother is not happy, in large part because of children and the stress they cause.She dropped out of college for us. While I appeciate the sacrifices she made to keep us alive, but I feel like she shouldn't have had to make them. Honestly, if she never had me, I wouldn't be here to gripe about it, so why would I care? That being said, I'm here, and I intend to make the most of that. I refuse to be a drain on society. But that means not having kids. And i'm okay with that.
Harsh but true! It's sad because I see so many kids who come from rough upbringings. These kids could be successful if they'd had good parents. But sadly, anyone who's anyone can have a child, and many people are simply unfit parents. People need to think about whether they will raise a child in a healthy environment before having them.
Very true Renee. That's why I cringe inside a little whenever I hear how "having children is a right" or whatever. Actually, I'm not sure it should be a universal "right." Since adults are the ones making the rules and setting the norms, they make rules and norms that benefit them. They only care about their own desires to have kids. They don't care one whit about the child's right to not be born into a shitty situation. I have no idea how a society would implement or enforce a "non-right" to have kids, and I'm not necessarily advocating that it should. But this mindless bleating that anyone, anywhere should be able to have as many kids as they want no matter what and no one should ever judge them is ridiculous, and frankly offensive to me, as someone who grew up in an emotionally abusive family. My parents should never have had kids. There, I said it. And it always horrifies people when I do, because it punctures their little rose-colored fantasy that a baby is always a wonderful, miraculous thing and Parenting Makes You a Better Person(TM).Grace, I just wanted to throw out some internet hugs. My family was (is) far-right xtians (hence the abuse) though thankfully, my parents valued education enough to want me to get one before popping out kids. They were initially horrified by my childfreedom (and atheism) but since we barely talk these days (and then, usually about the weather), I'm not sure if they've managed to come to terms.
http://youtu.be/HB3xM93rXbYI love how when people face the upfront tasks they say the job is cruel, awful, and they wouldn't do it. Then when it's flamed up with the title of "mom" all of the awful tasks don't seem to matter anymore. I wonder if this is real if the "applicants" will think twice about having kids or not.
http://youtu.be/HB3xM93rXbYHave you seen this? I wonder if this is true how many "applicants" are thinking twice about having kids. Of course the video backpedals at the end with appreciation for moms on Mother's Day, but I was still listening to the very obvious portion of the film - being a mom sucks.
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I absolutely love this blog and the insightful comments by the people who post here!!! I thought you all may enjoy this article, "9 phrases parents need to remove from their vocabularies":http://www.theloop.ca/living/life/parenting/article/-/a/4135671/9-phrases-parents-need-to-remove-from-their-vocabularies
Just a word of warning to the ladies sitting on the fence about having kids. I know a woman very very well and she tells women who are thinking about having kids all the time that 'it was the best years of her life' and to 'just do it'! I know full well she is full of crap and she lives a miserable existence. It's as if she gets off on giving them bad advice!! Her life is nothing but stress and mess and I hear it all the time. She is miserable!!! Be careful, not everyone has your best interest at heart and misery loves company as the saying goes!!
Thanks @hey1982 for the heads-up...yowsers! I remember seeing on this blog a list of celebrities who were child-free. I appreciate Cameron Diaz's candid approach to this subject and so far, she's still child-free. Here is the article:http://www.people.com/article/cameron-diaz-views-motherhood-kids-babies
It's not worth it AT ALL!!! I just visited a friend out of town over July 4, holiday weekend. As we laughed and talked, while the husbands were asleep... the topic of raising children came up. I have none...she has 3 boys. As we got into conversation, she started TO CRY!!! She told me, quote.."I don't want to talk about kids!" "What hurts the most, is that no matter HOW MUCH you try to help them make the RIGHT choices, they STILL make the WRONG ONES!" This woman was IN PAIN! ALL BECAUSE SHE HAD KIDS!This is WHY I am 42 years old, and have NEVER regretted NOT having children!!!
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