tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post7110711802085655203..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: The Allure of the Expected versus The TruthChildfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-55402546902988848382012-02-21T13:36:41.621-08:002012-02-21T13:36:41.621-08:00I know this is 2 years later but I just stumbled a...I know this is 2 years later but I just stumbled across this blog and have been enjoying your older posts. To her credit, my mom always made it clear that I had a choice about what I did with my life... what career i chose, get married or not, have kids or not. She also made it clear that she hated motherhood but felt like she did not have a choice in the 60s and 70s when she had us. Well I Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15907719551723921234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-42066080985474972622010-03-24T08:43:40.591-07:002010-03-24T08:43:40.591-07:00I'm so glad to have come across this blog! I&#...I'm so glad to have come across this blog! I'm sure this has been addressed before, but your point about the fact that being childfree is never even presented as an option really rang true with me. Not only that, but in my life even the suggestion of being childfree elicits a condescending attitude. I've been told I'm going to lead a very self-centered and empty life without cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07427751208494124794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-87844712059488448832010-03-17T13:23:44.605-07:002010-03-17T13:23:44.605-07:00So, here's my take...
The expected: A cycle t...So, here's my take...<br /><br />The expected: A cycle that consists of your creation due to your parents expectation to start a family, possibly "putting on hold" your mother's dream of a career. Several kids and 20+ years later, these children grow up to dream of careers, travels, expanding hobbies, etc., much like said mom, and once a certain age is reached (mid to late 20s, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-63706207997913864842010-03-06T22:40:45.540-08:002010-03-06T22:40:45.540-08:00Since I've had the cognitive ability to think ...Since I've had the cognitive ability to think about my future and not wanting children, I've been scoffed at for that by my family, teachers, and peers. As a defense, I'd usually just say that I might adopt someday. As an adult, I've met a few people who are child-free, and it's nice to know I'm not alone!Fanboy Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03543885221904172330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-85619784214672001602010-03-06T12:26:35.014-08:002010-03-06T12:26:35.014-08:00I have talked out of both sides of my mouth to sof...I have talked out of both sides of my mouth to soften the blow, and am just now getting courageous enough to admit that no, I don't want kids, not now, not ever, no matter what people say. I guess I did it because I dislike confrontation, but I'm getting braver. My parents want grandkids, but I'm not the one who will provide them. My sister is gay and doesn't want kids, so I Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08343090966003664888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-51668014601874404242010-03-06T10:20:29.994-08:002010-03-06T10:20:29.994-08:00I have known I didn't want kids since I was 12...I have known I didn't want kids since I was 12. No one took me seriously until about 2 years ago. I'm 37 now. The family at least is getting the hint. <br /><br />HOWEVER, I had abdominal surgery this past week. I ended up loosing both ovaries due to cysts. Problem solved! My BF and I are both childfree and love it that way, but being here in the midwest it's not accepted, just redwings19https://www.blogger.com/profile/10181928000013448805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-42421129350245936322010-03-06T08:53:57.346-08:002010-03-06T08:53:57.346-08:00I think the lack of role models is a result of the...I think the lack of role models is a result of the Media (once AGAIN) pandering to the lowest common denominator. Stuff about parenthood gets ratings and money, so that's what is shoved in our faces.<br /><br />I knew from a very young age (7 maybe?) that having kids was simply NOT an option for me. And I have a strong enough personality that I just didn't give a twig if it's what FreeAsAnEaglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01789436965409906671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-45303968165670073502010-03-05T01:22:00.128-08:002010-03-05T01:22:00.128-08:00HawkMom,
I was 17 too when I told my parents I did...HawkMom,<br />I was 17 too when I told my parents I didn't want children and I would have had tubal ligation (I already knew what it was).<br />My mother didn't take me seriously and my father said that it would have broken his heart.marinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11659296002311186807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-84511057586918020512010-03-04T18:56:41.971-08:002010-03-04T18:56:41.971-08:00"Childfreedom is never presented as an option..."Childfreedom is never presented as an option. It's rarely, if ever, mentioned by anyone, at any time..."<br /><br />I didn't know it was an option. After almost 3 years of marriage I felt strange b/c I still didn't want to have children. Yes, I admit I don't want to make the sacrifices. My parents have 5 kids and it seemed growing up that it was all about sacrifice and Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15188350538541271279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-14721028433966581752010-03-04T01:07:18.883-08:002010-03-04T01:07:18.883-08:00I've always knew I didn't want to have chi...I've always knew I didn't want to have children, but the lack of childfree role models and the maternal instinct brain washing made me believe there was a biological clock's hormone that kiks in at a certain age, at least for females.<br />That's why when asked I answered "two kids" instead of "zero", I didn't want them but I supposed one day I would cravedmarinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11659296002311186807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-63739135500748747072010-03-03T21:28:41.057-08:002010-03-03T21:28:41.057-08:00"It's just what you do" seems to be ..."It's just what you do" seems to be the common philosophy. At 17, I told my mom I didn't want children. She scoffed and called me selfish. People just can't wrap their minds around not having children for some reason.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-71148819570923375552010-03-03T18:38:53.582-08:002010-03-03T18:38:53.582-08:00As someone born, raised and still living in the Mi...As someone born, raised and still living in the Midwest, Childfreedom is never presented as an option. In the short 18 months that I've been married, I've faced countless judgments already. <br /><br />At work, in a semi-professional setting, I have stated my desire to remain childfree. It's almost as though my colleagues don't take me seriously because I continue to get comments Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10920872885323647231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-30793406622249386262010-03-03T14:34:52.184-08:002010-03-03T14:34:52.184-08:00Most of my family is childfree. My father is the o...Most of my family is childfree. My father is the only sibling of four who had children. One aunt has a bunch of pets instead of children. The other aunt just doesn't care for kids that much, and my uncle is the same way. Although none of them are married either, and I got married.<br /><br />My grandmother tried to guilt me for not having great grandchildren for her--I said, well that isn'sara starhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04826686885318466824noreply@blogger.com