tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post6127313872069849795..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: Parental Delusion: Throwing Good Money After BadChildfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-20106221068342202342011-03-10T05:41:05.830-08:002011-03-10T05:41:05.830-08:00The comments to this article, and there are a lot ...The comments to this article, and there are a lot of them, are stunning in the anger and resentment shown by parents. They apparently don't realize that their shrill vitriol actually inforces the studies findings.Dogsledderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02645300358284076835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-51903165113330167512011-03-09T18:01:22.263-08:002011-03-09T18:01:22.263-08:00If reproducing is a part of dna why birth rates ch...If reproducing is a part of dna why birth rates changed so much during last decades (dna doesn't change so fast), why is it related to woman level education and why the istinct kicks in at different ages depending on country, social status, social pressures, woman rights, etc...?marinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11659296002311186807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-6935597400347136162011-03-09T11:27:18.733-08:002011-03-09T11:27:18.733-08:00My theory is that all these people look around at ...My theory is that all these people look around at their miserable, tired, disappointed, or angry parents and think, that won't happen to me. It will be different when I do it! I'll just change this one little thing, and it will turn out just fine! <br /><br />This phenomenon doesn't just occur in the decision to procreate, either. It also happens in cases of drunk driving, athletes, Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00469912352453659215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-15120940695374906052011-03-09T11:09:15.837-08:002011-03-09T11:09:15.837-08:00I was thinking, often Mothers and Fathers say that...I was thinking, often Mothers and Fathers say that those little moments where the child says "I love you" and looks all cute are worth more than all the sacrifice, etc. And they seem to imply that childfree don't have those moments. But I do have those moments, with very little of the sacrifice. When I visit with my friend and her children, her daughters will sit in my lap, hug sara starhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04826686885318466824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-3082191290997616942011-03-08T13:32:29.556-08:002011-03-08T13:32:29.556-08:00Maybe the sex drive has evolved to get humans to r...Maybe the sex drive has evolved to get humans to reproduce and it's hardwired into us because of natural selection. If that's true, and if evolution is the only thing that matters, then I would also say that humans have evolved a rational, tool-making brain. <br /><br />Thanks to natural selection we now have the natural capacity to understand where babies come from and can invent tools Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-60226580230160991912011-03-08T13:00:50.283-08:002011-03-08T13:00:50.283-08:00The question of whether we're really hardwired...The question of whether we're really hardwired to procreate has interested me for a while since I seem to be missing that gene altogether. If we're to take it at face value that we're programmed to breed, then it should follow that we also have, like most life forms, an innate knowledge of when to slow down or stop procreation when population outstrips resources. Humans have managed Clarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08317781439813042895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-80896873257551425842011-03-08T10:35:54.546-08:002011-03-08T10:35:54.546-08:00I think humans are hard wired to have sex and the ...I think humans are hard wired to have sex and the sex drive is something that automatically happens on its own (for most people) but I don't think we're hard wired to have kids. Having kids is something that we actively decide. We can decide to have sex without protection and have kids, or we can decide to have sex for the enjoyment of sex on its own, without kids.<br /><br />There are Childfreeeeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-4570905270198608362011-03-08T10:08:02.307-08:002011-03-08T10:08:02.307-08:00Great post.
This:
"Mali, I wonder how much o...Great post.<br /><br />This:<br />"Mali, I wonder how much of the desire to procreate is built into our DNA versus programmed into us by the environment."<br />....is such a great question. I've often wondered if people were really hard-wired to have kids. Because if they are, that would make me deficient in some "normal" human urge. I mean, it's not like sleeping CFVixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777723818313211020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-35554930718687875502011-03-08T07:49:31.050-08:002011-03-08T07:49:31.050-08:00Mali, I wonder how much of the desire to procreate...Mali, I wonder how much of the desire to procreate is built into our DNA versus programmed into us by the environment.<br /><br />How much of a drive to procreate do you think people would have if they weren't bombarded from every direction by "parenthood is the ultimate path to fulfillment" messages?Childfreeeeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-49540241136784572832011-03-07T14:44:30.001-08:002011-03-07T14:44:30.001-08:00I think it would be an interesting area for resear...I think it would be an interesting area for research. But ultimately the article said it: "... all such evidence will never outweigh the desire to procreate, which is one of the most powerfully encoded urges built into our DNA."Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-60508238252232819352011-03-07T12:59:22.405-08:002011-03-07T12:59:22.405-08:00Interesting. I was thinking a lot about this last...Interesting. I was thinking a lot about this last night--my husband and I were watching "Freakonomics" and started discussing why birth control makes so much sense in this day and age. We no longer are at the mercy of our sex drives-before birth control, couples had sex and sometimes they got pregnant and had kids. Then they HAD to be parents so they tried to make the best of the Spectrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867094255953299465noreply@blogger.com