tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post4688252055762164962..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: Fun (It's Not Just for Kids)Childfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-72917914533193911512011-07-16T12:33:14.498-07:002011-07-16T12:33:14.498-07:00I think the "fun is for children" idea i...I think the "fun is for children" idea is the source of the assumption that childfree people are immature, selfish and emotionally stunted. A LOT of people have the unexamined idea that a person is only entitled to so much fun, leisure time and luxury (whether "luxury" means $5 ice cream, $150 shoes or a two-week trip to Sweden for you) in life. <br /><br />Maybe childfree tlthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704864099073710382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-67595074240267476772011-07-08T09:09:22.458-07:002011-07-08T09:09:22.458-07:00Hey Harvey... Sure, I've got a coupla things ...Hey Harvey... Sure, I've got a coupla things in my photobucket.<br /><br />[IMG]http://i7.photobucket.com/albums/y270/Juliepoo15/My%20doodles%20and%20artwork/Glory1-1.jpg[/IMG]<br />I love parrots.<br /><br />And here's a before coloring scan of a character I did for a children's book a few years ago.<br /><br />[IMG]http://i7.photobucket.com/albums/y270/Juliepoo15/My%20doodles%20andSea_creaturehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337406816003941140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-15504622331814214222011-07-05T22:08:55.675-07:002011-07-05T22:08:55.675-07:00@Sea_Creature:
Do you put your art up anywhere? ...@Sea_Creature:<br /><br />Do you put your art up anywhere? I'd love to see it!Harvey Requiemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02963190413341072166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-957609293037604702011-07-02T16:27:25.429-07:002011-07-02T16:27:25.429-07:00I think it's not so much that people think fun...I think it's not so much that people think fun is reserved for children, but more that you being fun runs counter to people's typical perceptions of why some people don't want to have kids (we're grouches, we're selfish, we're cold and unfeeling, etc., etc.).<br /><br />And then they see that actually you're a cool person, and instead of altering their perception of Almost Alrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08550702198860435010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-84071896534731348392011-07-01T22:34:07.226-07:002011-07-01T22:34:07.226-07:00I stumbled across your blog because it was on a fr...I stumbled across your blog because it was on a friend's facebook. I actually am a mom, but for many years I never wanted children so I can relate to not wanting children and can definitely see the upsides.<br /><br />Yeah, I'm not sure where people get the idea being a parent is "fun". There are fun moments, but it is mostly a lot of hard work. I think the reason parents say Urbancowgrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15860022294549771879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-247944981280068712011-07-01T15:41:00.923-07:002011-07-01T15:41:00.923-07:00Childfree people are supposed to be immature becau...Childfree people are supposed to be immature because obviously we prefer to have fun instead of leading responsible lives. If parents really believe that about us, isn't that an admission that life is more fun WITHOUT having kids?<br /><br />On the other hand, if I'm supposed to have kids because kids are fun, isn't that a really irresponsible, selfish reason to have kids?<br /><br />Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-86948718319529250902011-06-30T09:18:29.199-07:002011-06-30T09:18:29.199-07:00Ha! I hear you Harvey. I do little illustration ...Ha! I hear you Harvey. I do little illustration projects here and there, which has included children's books. How on EARTH can someone who draws cute people and animals not want children?! *eyeroll*<br />I love being silly and a free spirit, always have and always will. I don't need the daily drudgery of my own kids to remind me that life can be so much fun.Sea_creaturehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337406816003941140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-28845988074928433822011-06-29T16:46:56.818-07:002011-06-29T16:46:56.818-07:00That fun=kids thing drives me nuts! It's even...That fun=kids thing drives me nuts! It's even harder when your field is animation, since in that case even childfree people seem to regard me with suspicion based on that little fun=kids equation. I tried to get on Childfree Hardcore, even made an account specifically for that purpose, and got rejected. I suspect the reason is that, while I was too lazy to really flesh out my information, Harvey Requiemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02963190413341072166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-87557403400750443142011-06-29T04:27:55.700-07:002011-06-29T04:27:55.700-07:00Firstly, I love your ice cream idea! Fun must be f...Firstly, I love your ice cream idea! Fun must be for adults, too, or else we get... old. :D<br />Secondly, I'm so happy to have found this site. I have visited other child-free sites, but found the sheer amount of child/mother bashing to be a turn off. I don't want to bash others' choices - I simply want to enjoy my own! This site seems much more focused on the positives of being Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05943796179458525714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-39939852907307321992011-06-28T18:53:04.589-07:002011-06-28T18:53:04.589-07:00This is on the yahoo news page tonight.
http://s...This is on the yahoo news page tonight. <br /><br />http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting/the-no-baby-boom-2503225/Alliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01830235980457586414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-56941396927727637632011-06-28T18:49:54.371-07:002011-06-28T18:49:54.371-07:00This reminded me of why I enjoy all the fun things...This reminded me of why I enjoy all the fun things I do as an adult. The looks on the faces of my childed co-workers / acquaintances / friends is priceless when I mention what I'm doing this weekend. It's as if they simply can't comprehend that adults can have fun themselves. This weekend I've invited everyone I know to the drive-in movie theater so we can tailgate, eat, drink, Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025529442088316103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-83447104731021448162011-06-28T14:31:26.335-07:002011-06-28T14:31:26.335-07:00christy, i agree with everything you have said. i ...christy, i agree with everything you have said. i just feel that people are always waiting until they are older for life to truly begin. when we are young, our lives will only have meaning when we can drink. then wait, no we can't wait until we're married. then we can't wait to REALLY settle down until we have kids, but of course we can only have them after we have crammed in all the Believehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03602839523504892751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-52834862911689052482011-06-28T11:05:43.278-07:002011-06-28T11:05:43.278-07:00I agree 100% with everything that you said! I don&...I agree 100% with everything that you said! I don't have anything much to add, but thanks for this post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-26769376178867065952011-06-27T23:28:18.541-07:002011-06-27T23:28:18.541-07:00I get comments like these from people all the time...I get comments like these from people all the time. The funny thing is, my small cousin (aged 4) classes me as a "child", while my much more life-responsible and serious sister (four years my junior) is classified "grown-up". <br /><br />When it's my eye on the children of course I am to some extent being responsible, but I also sit on the floor with them rather than on a Sannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03887563528046709686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-90820611626956075712011-06-27T19:42:15.368-07:002011-06-27T19:42:15.368-07:00Hmmm, novelty ice creams! Spot on as usual! I simi...Hmmm, novelty ice creams! Spot on as usual! I similarly am annoyed by the idea that childhood is the BEST part of life, and the rest is just meant for schlepping through and reminiscing. How could it be the best time? Absolutely no freedom, chores with no apparent benefit, spankings, no money, etc. Remind me what part of that was fun again? I am having WAAAAAY more fun now, and I truly pity Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00469912352453659215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-83166597225372161972011-06-27T17:39:27.218-07:002011-06-27T17:39:27.218-07:00And yet if a parent is "too fun" they ar...And yet if a parent is "too fun" they aren't responsible enough and their children are being raised by a friend and not a parent. I often tell my mommy friends to call me when I can come and give a mom a rest. I've taken kids to the zoo, the pool, etc just so mom has a moment of sanity. But, I do this because I have the energy to be with the kids all day knowing full well I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-26390750497465755372011-06-27T16:21:51.392-07:002011-06-27T16:21:51.392-07:00"...most of the reason I am good with kids is..."...most of the reason I am good with kids is the fact that they are novel to me and I am not around them (and being annoyed by them) all day long. I appreciate them because they are fresh in my eyes."<br /><br />YES! Just because I can take the time to engage a small child doesn't mean I'm a) champing at the bit to have my own or b) excellent mother material - I engage all Chibihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04247441931305025516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-83601790710929252412011-06-27T14:31:10.568-07:002011-06-27T14:31:10.568-07:00I can relate to this from my volunteer work with k...I can relate to this from my volunteer work with kids as part of the school Scrabble program. To them, I am their big brother or uncle who helps them out with their Scrabble game, compliments them when they make good plays, and acts silly around them once in a while.<br /><br />And I send them home to their parents happier than when they left their houses in the morning.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05503978839912338538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-23741913328439714752011-06-27T13:55:32.460-07:002011-06-27T13:55:32.460-07:00Part of why I don't have kids is because I rea...Part of why I don't have kids is because I really like to have fun, too. And even though kids like to have fun, when you're the parent you don't get to partake in much of the fun--you often get to clean up the fun messes, make sure no one's getting hurt, etc. I prefer to be the fun aunt who takes my nephew and niece to the zoo and gives them back to my sis at night.Spectrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867094255953299465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-87483451575688710432011-06-27T12:35:21.639-07:002011-06-27T12:35:21.639-07:00[squealing] Miiisssstttteeeerrrr Softeeeeeeeeee![/...[squealing] Miiisssstttteeeerrrr Softeeeeeeeeee![/squealing]<br /><br />Now that I've gotten that out of my system, I have to say that equating being a fun-loving person with being a good parent is silly at best. Some of the worst parents I've ever come into contact with were <i>lots of fun</i>... so much fun, in fact, that they let their children do whatever the hell they wanted and Makeda_Tunihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04891878369124640536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-53377063223314969532011-06-27T09:25:02.156-07:002011-06-27T09:25:02.156-07:00True dat! I enjoy kid's company a lot and like...True dat! I enjoy kid's company a lot and like you, I adore goofing around with them mostly because I only have to have fun with them (instead of educating, taking care and doing all the other little annoying duties the parents have to...)<br /><br />Also: What a great and considerate co-worker you are! I wish you were my boss :-PThat weido over therehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11653033143585812912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-76948766998603214722011-06-27T08:39:41.234-07:002011-06-27T08:39:41.234-07:00you know - you make a good point. Yesterday I was ...you know - you make a good point. Yesterday I was at the supermarket deli and there was a mom and dad with the most adorable (I mean BEAUTIFUL) little girls. The littler one, probably 18 months or something, was looking up at me and the other people standing around, and just giggling at us. It was kinda funny, and most of the adults were laughing a bit at her goofiness. Know who wasn't Trishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01772869345302958809noreply@blogger.com