tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post3110037492251368600..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: The Motherhood Badge of MartyrdomChildfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-19047315129137082772012-06-20T09:32:54.835-07:002012-06-20T09:32:54.835-07:00Hey Christine,
Thanks for your comment and your t...Hey Christine,<br /><br />Thanks for your comment and your thoughts. One thing though that I feel like I should point out:<br /><br />Just because YOU were, as you said in your own words "...horribly selfish, self-centered, uncompassionate,and unwilling to sacrifice" before you had children does not mean that every other person is the same way. Sometimes it takes a certain level of Krissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02033831686833401724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-62706798879741485982012-06-19T13:27:44.067-07:002012-06-19T13:27:44.067-07:00Christine:
It might be true for you that motherho...Christine: <br />It might be true for you that motherhood has given you blessings, fulfillment, and joy, but that experience is not true for many women and I know wouldn't be true for me and many people who comment on this blog. <br /><br />Many women do not grow as people when they become mothers. I have seen women who have simply lost themselves due to all the pressures, sacrifices, and Freelance Feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18092340281129630966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-87661769645927579562012-06-09T09:07:22.359-07:002012-06-09T09:07:22.359-07:00This post is horrible. I'm glad you think you ...This post is horrible. I'm glad you think you know the psychology of mothers well enough to determine for the rest of us why we had children. Nice to know it was purely for selfish reasons. <br /><br />Hogwash.<br /><br />I'm a mother of four. I don't complain about being a mother. I LOVE being a mother--even with all the sacrifices it entails. <br /><br />I was horribly selfish, Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05205862627682998184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-33782765462222586072010-11-02T19:27:57.367-07:002010-11-02T19:27:57.367-07:00Im new here and just disovered this blog, so why i...Im new here and just disovered this blog, so why im replying to really old posts.<br />Anyway, I am so happy to have found this blog.It feels great to know that I am not alone, in a society that seems obsessed with motherhood, I truly have felt like I live in a world that wasnt quite made for someone like me who isnt thrilled about having kids and have other goals in mind. <br /> I am approachingLittle Type Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12615100089917475066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-71171207346165371202010-07-10T23:08:48.073-07:002010-07-10T23:08:48.073-07:00oh and another thing "paul". i think YOU...oh and another thing "paul". i think YOU are "protesting too much" if you're seeking out childfree websites to come justify your choice on. get over yourself.Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05502708299118165061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-70114332214484107482010-07-10T23:00:29.591-07:002010-07-10T23:00:29.591-07:00ok, "paul", why did you have kids then? ...ok, "paul", why did you have kids then? funny you didn't tell us not one of your unselfish reasons.. maybe you should enlighten us!<br /><br />"shredderfeeder" ~ If you don't like someone's "religion" would you go to their church? if you don't want to hear childfree people's opinions, then DON'T COME TO ONE OF THEIR BLOGS AND READ IT! Simple Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05502708299118165061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-70821404403064123012010-04-09T06:41:55.235-07:002010-04-09T06:41:55.235-07:00Great title of this equally great post on the phen...Great title of this equally great post on the phenomenon! And yes, we have many of those martyr columnists over here in Sweden, dropping weekly rants of their heroic sacrifices as parents. Like "charmed" points out, I have zero sympathy for their bitching, and try to feel greatful of my childfreedom instead of raising my annoyance level...Ozjeppehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10747732072885732755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-74636577104129307422010-04-02T17:51:43.906-07:002010-04-02T17:51:43.906-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Juniper Jupiterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02263997713033829954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-50404594214314562702010-03-29T17:14:06.975-07:002010-03-29T17:14:06.975-07:00I just found this blog and immediately bookmarked ...I just found this blog and immediately bookmarked it to my favorites.<br /><br />I'll add that one of the things that annoys the piss out of me about some parents, and it tends to be the newer ones, is that they act like they, themselves, are saints for choosing to procreate. Like they somehow walk in some type of invisible holy light, that the rest of us do not, for bringing one or more Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00347434635553645434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-28303236280110884972010-03-29T13:37:18.894-07:002010-03-29T13:37:18.894-07:00I agree, using Facebook as a forum to either gripe...I agree, using Facebook as a forum to either gripe about your kids or glorify everything they do is NOT healthy. I've hidden some people that I've friended on Facebook for that very reason because it really makes me mad/sad that their lives revolve around their children.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02710114545309291712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-86230933136463926342010-03-26T08:52:48.977-07:002010-03-26T08:52:48.977-07:00Amen to the post and most of the comments.Amen to the post and most of the comments.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06961186041071578537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-72394558799282073262010-03-25T14:31:46.237-07:002010-03-25T14:31:46.237-07:00when people complain about their kids it doesn'...when people complain about their kids it doesn't really bother me at all. But at the same time they get no sympathy from me what so ever, i do not feel bad for them at all b/c they made the choice to have kids. It just makes me extremely grateful I don't have kids and I will never have to deal with any of that stuff. EVER.<br /><br />btw...love your blogcharmedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00974700528268061120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-39838694582788926772010-03-23T18:25:51.079-07:002010-03-23T18:25:51.079-07:00Paul, the paragraph you quoted contained a lot of ...Paul, the paragraph you quoted contained a lot of reasons that a lot of people have children. I'm sure Childfreeeee did not mean every single parent on Earth had kids for only one of those reasons. She was merely trying to point out that a lot of parents, especially those who call childless/childfree people "selfish" are guilty of being selfish as well. We all make choices that we MilaJosephinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13998199192472064943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-64560256426152558012010-03-21T14:51:05.872-07:002010-03-21T14:51:05.872-07:00Amen.Amen.Krissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02033831686833401724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-55101094499146686772010-03-20T10:55:00.635-07:002010-03-20T10:55:00.635-07:00i always love your blog. have been following it f...i always love your blog. have been following it for a long time. this post really resonated. SPEAK. IT.<br /><br />@dave: that last comment would have sent me over the edge. i try not to engage in those kinds of arguments b/c they always end there. that's all they have to say and it's done.fbritthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01107202077874212172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-36724950091571592882010-03-19T13:03:00.222-07:002010-03-19T13:03:00.222-07:00There are idiots on both sides of this debate, but...There are idiots on both sides of this debate, but the most vapid responses are always from the "childfreebychoice" crowd.<br /><br />People complain every day about their jobs, do you tell them to quit them? No, because they serve a purpose. Even if that purpose is just to keep us entertained in our old age when we can spoil the grandkids rotten and then hand them back. (I fully Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-68930718453377382042010-03-19T12:33:02.369-07:002010-03-19T12:33:02.369-07:00This is truly brilliant! I've shared on Twitte...This is truly brilliant! I've shared on Twitter & Facebook. THANK YOU for writing this EPIC blog!Stepherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10562119008788065652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-42182617184542596992010-03-19T12:25:15.311-07:002010-03-19T12:25:15.311-07:00You wrote: "People bring kids into the world ...You wrote: "People bring kids into the world for selfish reasons - not for the betterment of humanity. They want a little Mini-Me - a cute, cuddly being who looks like them to love unconditionally. They want to have fun buying little baby clothes, they want to be a powerful influence over somebody who is dependent on them and thinks they are god, they want someone to carry on their name, to paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067146755856771115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-33184978713619448412010-03-19T12:20:40.212-07:002010-03-19T12:20:40.212-07:00"Having kids is a choice, people". I als..."Having kids is a choice, people". I also think it´s a choice, of course. But for people in general this is an obligation. I see it when I say I don't wanna kids, then people say to me: "How you don't wanna kids, YOU HAVE TO HAVE THEM!!" Like a physiologic stuff: you eat, you drink water, you sleep, you breathe and you have kids.Lívia Fernandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06494315023513513658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-56926059708979496432010-03-19T12:07:50.796-07:002010-03-19T12:07:50.796-07:00Wow. So many well-put words of wisdom and humor an...Wow. So many well-put words of wisdom and humor and insight. It's just like when I found the vegetarians. I finally found "my people." Twice! Thanks guys, I love the way you think.Kristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16877679075794150431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-9322168384938109442010-03-17T17:23:49.617-07:002010-03-17T17:23:49.617-07:00The friends of mine that have children don’t compl...The friends of mine that have children don’t complain or even talk about their children all the time. Even though they have children, they are still interesting and intelligent human beings. (Most of them had children before we met.) However, I do know some people who do nothing but gripe about their children. It takes a lot of restraint not to ask, “Then why did you have kids in the first place?Fanboy Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03543885221904172330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-20741302977870372842010-03-17T09:34:42.823-07:002010-03-17T09:34:42.823-07:00I was looking up reasons not to have kids yesterda...I was looking up reasons not to have kids yesterday and came across your blog! I'm so incredibly happy that I did! I stayed up all night reading every entry and love it!Toast McGhosthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15271159458808402010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-39235133385161965622010-03-17T02:00:33.728-07:002010-03-17T02:00:33.728-07:00Well said and very brave. They never expect people...Well said and very brave. They never expect people to 'throw it back in their face'.<br /><br />They bring it upon themselves although I do say that there is so much society pressure to have kids, you know with the 'so-called good stuff' they end up having them anyway and I wonder if this woman actually regrets having kids.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08332803730755352612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-43943615143679544072010-03-16T09:58:31.619-07:002010-03-16T09:58:31.619-07:00Our society Loves the martyr -- "I do so much...Our society Loves the martyr -- "I do so much, for so many..for so little." Look at my life of self-sacrifice -- I must be a good person. It gives people of false sense of self-importance (over those who have not chosen the same sacrifice)and an illusory sense of personal power. Parents who are doing the martyr thing just tell me that at the core they are not feeling too good about lauracarrollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15795930442562311101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-60153981941872556912010-03-15T19:38:57.900-07:002010-03-15T19:38:57.900-07:00I think I love you. RSS feed intravenously, please...I think I love you. RSS feed intravenously, please!Kimberly Springer, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12792520379381939552noreply@blogger.com