tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post2238102043035353978..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: In Small DosesChildfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-3739027294085049552014-08-07T12:49:57.101-07:002014-08-07T12:49:57.101-07:00This is such a smart and funny analogy! LolThis is such a smart and funny analogy! LolEnjoyinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16564779611869071630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-25682629304444049322013-07-12T16:44:09.058-07:002013-07-12T16:44:09.058-07:00I'm a mother of 4 (how did I get on this blog ...I'm a mother of 4 (how did I get on this blog again?) and I totally get the "kids in small doses" thing. In fact, I could have used a smaller dose today!! Still, I think babysitting is far different from having your own kids because you don't feel any ownership with babysitting. When the kids are your own, they still drive you crazy but you just care so much more about them, OCCEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12756478051920977176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-34068060406752336392012-05-17T08:23:26.457-07:002012-05-17T08:23:26.457-07:00I hope I'll enjoy time with my (non-existant a...I hope I'll enjoy time with my (non-existant at the moment) nieces and nephews, and children of friends. I am definitely in the camp of people that is a little uncertain of what to do with children. I think I'd like to have structured events planned, like they visit for a weekend, and I tired them out with trips to the zoo, movies, arcades, and swimming. Perhaps that would be easier. I NoniWorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06134231090396287991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-5289117696827312502012-04-19T08:31:02.073-07:002012-04-19T08:31:02.073-07:00"They are completely self-centered. They ram..."They are completely self-centered. They ramble on non-stop. They think everything they do is fascinating (when it is not), and they expect us to act as though it is. They need constant praise and approval. They are attention whores. They expect the world to revolve around them."<br />Make obnoxious American kids. I am from a different culture and although there are universalities Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-77395418696466684362012-04-09T01:03:58.235-07:002012-04-09T01:03:58.235-07:00I can only deal with children in small doses. Your...I can only deal with children in small doses. Your article was well written. As long as the child is good and well mannered I do not mind watching them for a couple of hours. I had to take my step sisters out to the zoo one day and I almost lost my mind ! They were so rude and loud. Her mother was wondering why i coninued to ring her phone off the hook! <br /><br />It is so funny how parents thatmzwunderkindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17097597801033933015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-86784020453170478962012-03-30T15:30:25.025-07:002012-03-30T15:30:25.025-07:00Hey Jen! I too love a Childfree blog that isn'...Hey Jen! I too love a Childfree blog that isn't vitriol. Some active ones that have a really positive slant that come to mind are www.oliviareadinginthebath.com and www.lifewithoutbaby.wordpress.com. You're also welcome to check out mine, which is more Undecided than Childfree...but you can probably read between the lines of where I lean - www.maybebabymaybenot.com.Liz @ MaybeBabyMaybeNothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16986861200764361925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-18815438962533214592012-03-30T11:16:49.301-07:002012-03-30T11:16:49.301-07:00Great post. Love to see some childfree posts that...Great post. Love to see some childfree posts that aren't vitriol. And this one was great. And thank goodness I no longer have to make money babysitting. <br />On a different note, love your blog but are there other good childfree blogs out there? I've just started looking around for them and there are quite a few that haven't seen action in awhile. I started off on <a href="Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15560190514676066584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-55118017608822177252012-03-20T01:10:57.987-07:002012-03-20T01:10:57.987-07:00"how do people do this every day without blow..."how do people do this every day without blowing their brains out?" - that's what I've been wondering after babysitting for almost a whole day, a couple years ago. I got so bored that even the news on TV seemed somewhat entertaining. It's fun at first, when you play with a few toys, chase the kid around the house, watch Tom and Jerry with him and play hide and seek. But thenAlexandra Enehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03956056058328326538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-19714504747935783032012-02-15T13:20:49.841-08:002012-02-15T13:20:49.841-08:00In response to Jenn:
I get tired of the whole &qu...In response to Jenn:<br /><br />I get tired of the whole "your kid could grow up to cure cancer" spiel that people say. To them I say:<br /><br />Why are we putting off the cure for cancer until the next generation? If you want to cure cancer, then work on it yourself. Having a kid who may cure cancer some day is a really poor way to fight a disease. Besides, what if your kid thinks theTemujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-86371639094004044132012-02-07T19:10:21.533-08:002012-02-07T19:10:21.533-08:00I prefer my doses of children to be so small that ...I prefer my doses of children to be so small that the doses are homeopathic -- so small they are essentially nonexistent. In homeopathy, the more dilute the dose, the stronger the medicine. The less interaction with kids, the more I enjoy them. Homeopathy works!Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-35929730793192414652012-02-06T18:12:41.698-08:002012-02-06T18:12:41.698-08:00I feel the same way but I am slightly less toleran...I feel the same way but I am slightly less tolerant. I can handle my 6 yr old niece in tiny bits but I get really bored around her. I hate playing barbie games and talking about stupid boring things. It is so hard for me to freign interest. Now my 14 yr old nephew is fun. He does not need me to talk to him about his lame life all the time and need constant care. He is actually fun.<br />I don'Rhonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07794912924763838984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-30125044631793543672012-02-06T13:04:01.455-08:002012-02-06T13:04:01.455-08:00I never have any idea what to talk to kids about -...I never have any idea what to talk to kids about - even my neices and nephews. They want to chat for 45 minutes about their favorite color, and I want to jump off my balcony.<br /><br />I'm fantastic at striking up conversations with adults becuase you can always ask "what do you do for a living?" or "My, you look hungover, where'd you go out last night?" But kids wantLiz @ MaybeBabyMaybeNothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16986861200764361925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-27531118494282671272012-02-03T17:51:35.276-08:002012-02-03T17:51:35.276-08:00Two of my cousins are raising pretty awesome child...Two of my cousins are raising pretty awesome children... That said, after visiting Costco with one of my cousin's two girls the other day, I thought, "This is fabulous for about 2.5 hours out of my day, and then I am done." I found it adorable that others in store probably figured one of the kids belonged to me, as one was holding my hand most of the time, and resembles me slightly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-74251267326726357772012-02-03T15:50:20.382-08:002012-02-03T15:50:20.382-08:00haha cute. :) I agree, I am childfree, I like kids...haha cute. :) I agree, I am childfree, I like kids, but don't want any. I love my neices and nephews, and all but after a few hours, I gotta go! lol I find kids exhausting. lol I work with youth every day I might add. lol My pets are SOOOOOO much easier, and relaxing. I love my furry and feathery babies. lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-24796774136059049382012-02-03T06:44:45.144-08:002012-02-03T06:44:45.144-08:00That was awfully nice of you to babysit for so lon...That was awfully nice of you to babysit for so long. I feel the same way about my niece and nephew- I love them dearly, but in small doses. I'm happy to watch the kids for a 4-6 hour block occasionally on a weekend when my sister and her husband (finally!) go out on a date, but by the end of it... I'm worn out and ready to hit the bottle, you know?<br /><br />That being said, my husband Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08948893059423067034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-13931162286012142012-02-02T16:30:47.454-08:002012-02-02T16:30:47.454-08:00I think of children as little adults who just have...I think of children as little adults who just haven't learned how to behave yet. They haven't learned how to censor themselves, not to scream in public places, that it's actually bad to be selfish, and you should be mean to other people. Look at how kids treat each other on the playground - just think of how your childhood was playing with other kids - they aren't little angels, Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03302518861984744576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-234982350511434762012-02-02T13:35:43.199-08:002012-02-02T13:35:43.199-08:00Last Tuesday, my boss (a lady almost into her 60&#...Last Tuesday, my boss (a lady almost into her 60's) and I were cleaning a few houses. At one house, the client, an elderly lady, thanked my boss for the hot chocolate mix and marshmallows arranged in an icing bag so it looked like a ice cream cone. My boss made 57 of those "ice cream cones", kept 25 for her family, and the rest went to other people outside her family (friends, otherkangamasfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09346266043526700231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-30393215862436135552012-02-02T06:53:33.896-08:002012-02-02T06:53:33.896-08:00so true--what you all say and what cfvixen says :
...so true--what you all say and what cfvixen says :<br /><br />"Everyone oohing and ahhing over every little thing the kids do. Please. You give them constant attention (at the expense of everyone and everything else), they are going to continue to want more and more. No wonder they think the world revolves around them..."<br /><br />I saw this with my brother and his wife and their kids<shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11231859755559008915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-27975404112692510872012-02-01T15:12:16.759-08:002012-02-01T15:12:16.759-08:00I can only handle in VERY small doses. I realized...I can only handle in VERY small doses. I realized when I was visiting family over the holidays just how low my tolerance and patience has gotten. But what's worse is the parents. Everyone oohing and ahhing over every little thing the kids do. Please. You give them constant attention (at the expense of everyone and everything else), they are going to continue to want more and more. No CFVixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777723818313211020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-22672659311926749762012-02-01T02:18:11.388-08:002012-02-01T02:18:11.388-08:00I have come to think that a lot of people with kid...I have come to think that a lot of people with kids enjoy using them as an excuse for all kinds of things they don't do. Why are they overweight? Because they have kids and don't have time to work out. How unselfish of them. Why do they eat crappy junk food? Well, that's all they can afford because the kids are so expensive. Oh how tragic. Why can't they work late to finish Coldfeetzeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01289476892007530219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-10781702240065826792012-01-31T18:14:09.884-08:002012-01-31T18:14:09.884-08:00I'll chime in about what Jenn is saying about ...I'll chime in about what Jenn is saying about the supposed profound insight kids have into the world, like when they ask what war is and why it has to happen.<br /><br />She hit the nail on the head with this example... people use examples like this all the time, and act as if this sort of thing is so wondrous, but it's not. The kids don't have some sort of insight into the world... Happily CFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05912934107614153098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-49330030992477547602012-01-31T18:06:09.080-08:002012-01-31T18:06:09.080-08:00I might have submitted this comment in the past......I might have submitted this comment in the past... I do believe that having children may make SOME people "grow," but the people who grow from the experience are not people who seek intellectual stimulation and like to think philosophically. I recently took an Adult Development psychology class, and realized (the rather commonsense notion) that certain experiences and challenges are Happily CFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05912934107614153098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-45612089999529442012-01-31T14:25:40.444-08:002012-01-31T14:25:40.444-08:00Woah, at only 19 I have already made up my mind to...Woah, at only 19 I have already made up my mind to not have kids. And these comments just tighten and explain my feelings. When my cute little cousins were really young and I came up to Oregon to visit...oh the headaches. It was great to act like a goof ball for a few hours, but after a few days of it I got really burtn out. What I find most interesting in these comments is that everyone says howCalRose42https://www.blogger.com/profile/11796743765298216433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-71274722543096913762012-01-31T12:18:26.929-08:002012-01-31T12:18:26.929-08:00I think my own mom really didn't like being ar...I think my own mom really didn't like being around us as kids much--she could never have been a stay at home mom. She probably would have killed either us or herself at some point, so it's probably good that she went to work and left us with my grandma after school. I love being with my little nephew and niece, but after a couple of hours, I get really sick of watching cat videos on Spectrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867094255953299465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-88573315682500770822012-01-31T07:07:34.482-08:002012-01-31T07:07:34.482-08:00I feel exactly the same way. A lot of my friends ...I feel exactly the same way. A lot of my friends have recently had children and I love meeting up with them (for brief periods) as the babies seems to be content to sleep or to gurgle away quietly - they all must be very contented children!<br /><br />People think because I don't want kids, I don't <i>like</i> kids which isn't necessarily true - it depends on the child! At the Gillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11031451096830692338noreply@blogger.com