tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post1680842965670250263..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: 45 Going on 30Childfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-41231154245964493312012-04-08T08:10:37.924-07:002012-04-08T08:10:37.924-07:00I can definitely relate to this! I am 35 and have...I can definitely relate to this! I am 35 and have felt the same age (27) since I was about 19 years old. I was very mature for a college student and now, most would agree I am somewhat immature for 35. That is perfectly fine with me. I love my life and can't imagine feeling any other way. When I look at most 35 year olds I just do not relate to them at all. Because of my geographic Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-66346785027856896612011-06-19T10:48:58.365-07:002011-06-19T10:48:58.365-07:00Excellent post. I am 50, got married at 40 (first ...Excellent post. I am 50, got married at 40 (first and only time). We decided it was too late for us to start the kid thing. I'm really happy with my decision although I won't have kids or grandkids to dolt over like my sisters and brother. My biggest fear about not having kids is that I'll be 80 and sitting by myself with no one to visit me. Sorry, it's the truth! Need to get overLaurie Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13784232086092503680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-7587974729063022362011-06-18T19:41:24.011-07:002011-06-18T19:41:24.011-07:00I do some volunteer work (well a lot I guess) and ...I do some volunteer work (well a lot I guess) and some traveling, but mostly the free time I have due to not being a parent is just necessary to keep me sane. I need a LOT more "me" time than your average person. Even things I enjoy, like spending time with friends will stress me out if I don't also have a lot of time to just be by myself and do nothing if I want to. Even a lot ofDianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00399216098293357874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-63918767030387677442011-06-18T11:58:24.526-07:002011-06-18T11:58:24.526-07:00Another great post!
How do I fill my time? Well,...Another great post!<br /><br />How do I fill my time? Well, to be honest, I feel our lives are so full as they are that I don't know WHERE I would fit raising kids in.<br /><br />DH and I love biking, walking, improving and decorating our home, visiting with our families and friends, traveling, working out, going to movies, eating out, etc. I also love reading, baking, and going to book CFVixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777723818313211020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-52082308544538876942011-06-17T15:47:03.897-07:002011-06-17T15:47:03.897-07:00I think the difference in the amount of 'spare...I think the difference in the amount of 'spare time' is just one component. There's also the ability to be more spontaneous that comes with being unencumbered by kids. It's the flexibility of the free time, not just the number of hours.<br /><br />I know single parents who can pack in a lot of activities for themselves. They are not totally enslaved, but it takes superhuman Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-56835313843130585422011-06-17T01:42:12.958-07:002011-06-17T01:42:12.958-07:00Temujin you took the words out of my mouth. I don...Temujin you took the words out of my mouth. I don't feel like I need to fill my time without kids, I love sleeping in on the weekends and then often lazing around for most of the day with my fiance, maybe going over to friends house late into the night then sleeping in late again the next day. I do enjoy having weekday evenings free to go to exercise classes, movies, afterwork drinks etc Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17165495968635760872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-79553120601410282802011-06-16T06:57:28.867-07:002011-06-16T06:57:28.867-07:00I'm 26 and have been married for 7 years, I ca...I'm 26 and have been married for 7 years, I cant imagine having kids and loosing my freedom. I face the "you'll change later" almost daily. Its so refreshing to know that we are not alone in our choice. When I read the part of what class or what skill you want to take. I was happy that's how I think about my free time. Thank you.Renaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02126452206122612996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-61580769395470950552011-06-16T03:26:13.793-07:002011-06-16T03:26:13.793-07:00I agree, surrounding yourself with kids make you f...I agree, surrounding yourself with kids make you feel old, not young! If you ask me how old I am, I'd say (by gut) about 26. In reality I'm 35. I believe that it has a lot to do with the fact I don't have kids. When ever I am surrounded by youngsters, I start using phrases like "when I was your age..." :D<br /><br />What I do with my time... Whoh, what ever I want. :D For Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-23243779731306501212011-06-16T01:57:28.352-07:002011-06-16T01:57:28.352-07:00I fill my time with music. My other half and I ar...I fill my time with music. My other half and I are 37 years old and we're never in the house. We go to 5 music festivals a year all of which involve staying in hotels away from home and one is overseas. As well as that we go clubbing at least twice a month, go to gigs constantly, parties, out for dinner... We're never in.<br /><br />We like our alternative music (EBM, industrial etc),Gillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11031451096830692338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-13076327468008704932011-06-15T22:52:56.310-07:002011-06-15T22:52:56.310-07:00Even if I think that compete to be (not pretend to...Even if I think that compete to be (not pretend to be) happy, educated and altruistic would be the best of the competitions, compete isn’t my intention.<br />I want to do things I can be proud of and I want others to think of me as a good person. <br />Know about other people learning, donating and volunteering, gives me hope, inspiration and the feeling it makes the world a better place.<br />Tomarinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11659296002311186807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-53526868851353804702011-06-15T21:57:40.824-07:002011-06-15T21:57:40.824-07:00When people ask me what I do "instead" o...When people ask me what I do "instead" of raising children, I answer as truthfully as I can-<br />"Whatever the hell I want."<br />The day I realized I didn't have to have kids was like being granted a pardon after having been on death row. I truly planned kids like I was planning my death. And suddenly, gloriously- "Hey, it's not mandatory."<br />And my Tante Fledermaushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13685309783228647734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-24610381327696186022011-06-13T09:35:20.870-07:002011-06-13T09:35:20.870-07:00As usual, a very thoughtful and insightful post. ...As usual, a very thoughtful and insightful post. You brought to light some very good points about what it is to feel young. I think some people have kids to experience their childhood again, but they realize it isn't so fun when you're the parent.Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14891905645531339658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-80955301181043389932011-06-13T08:21:50.771-07:002011-06-13T08:21:50.771-07:00I don't think you're being grumbly either....I don't think you're being grumbly either. No matter what path a person chooses to take in life, there are always expectations about the best way to live.<br /><br />I think the point is: whether you are travelling to Africa to help starving orphans or just working a regular job and having a few beers with friends on the weekends, the childfree life is not the lonely, empty void that Childfreeeeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-60231556683603354972011-06-13T07:36:23.814-07:002011-06-13T07:36:23.814-07:00I don't think you're being 'grumbly...I don't think you're being 'grumbly' Temujin and it's not limited to only the CF. <br />People on the internet (CF, parents, kids, singles, everyone), tend to over-state their positive attributes far more than their negative ones so take all the "I'm expanding my skills / taking an interesting class / learning Pig Latin / while donating 20 hrs of my time per month to Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10744988620717201253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-63086407161945700352011-06-12T13:58:10.120-07:002011-06-12T13:58:10.120-07:00Sometimes when I read what other childfree people ...Sometimes when I read what other childfree people write, I feel like I'm wasting my time -- everyone seems to be making the world a better place or traveling all over the world or making great works of art! Maybe I'm imagining things, but sometimes there seems to be a bit of competitive peer pressure in CF forums, like seeing who is maximizing their free time in the most envious way. I&#Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-76577579782516574082011-06-11T17:48:52.008-07:002011-06-11T17:48:52.008-07:00We did it, I mean, last year we quit our 10 plus y...We did it, I mean, last year we quit our 10 plus years jobs and moved to a tropical paradise .Now we are managing to build our dream house on a low budget and open a cafè.<br />Friends who shared similar plans decided to have kids instead.<br /><br />I love the fact that I have time to study, to improve my skills to make my life as I feel it was intended to be, and that I can give all the love mymarinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11659296002311186807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-38985072380343734572011-06-10T11:18:59.439-07:002011-06-10T11:18:59.439-07:00Heya! Thank you for the birthday wishes on my blo...Heya! Thank you for the birthday wishes on my blog. Yes, I have been told that I look young for my age, too.<br /><br />I fill my childfree time with outdoor activities like biking, jogging and recently learning how to snowboard. I also love being a pet mommy to a small zoo at home. I'm trying to get back into my art as well. I used to love drawing and I want to find joy in it again. <Sea_creaturehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337406816003941140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-87009005525646981692011-06-10T07:55:29.992-07:002011-06-10T07:55:29.992-07:00Oh, it's so nice to not feel alone! I fill my ...Oh, it's so nice to not feel alone! I fill my time with being a Dog Mom, a wife, practicing yoga, learning to throw pottery and writing. I absolutely feel younger than my friends who have kids - I'm 32 and get carded constantly. I think sleep has a lot to do with it! I feel great choosing a simpler, less hectic lifestyle. Thanks so much for this blog.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03439028518532711852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-29786136705025752212011-06-09T23:29:35.049-07:002011-06-09T23:29:35.049-07:00Two points I want to make here,
The first is that...Two points I want to make here,<br /><br />The first is that I have found something bigger than childfreedom (although that freedom is huge, for sure). Financial Independence (FI) is the next step after childfreedom because without having to work at all any more I can truly come and go as I please. I would not have been able to be FI had I not also been CF. But I needed to be free of work as Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05503978839912338538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-82728306271341202012011-06-09T22:27:07.317-07:002011-06-09T22:27:07.317-07:00This is a really good point, and one I haven't...This is a really good point, and one I haven't thought of before. I also feel older when I'm around children, or friends with children. One of my friends - only a year older than you - is a grandmother. Now THAT makes me feel really old!Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-58884651573668630902011-06-09T19:22:38.737-07:002011-06-09T19:22:38.737-07:00Great post! Great blog!
I agree 100%.
It's ni...Great post! Great blog!<br />I agree 100%.<br /><br />It's nice to find people who think like I do, because my whole family and almost all my friends look at me and say "oh, poor you, you don't have children" and it's so hard having to say 100 times that I am happy the way I am and that I never had kids because I did't want to... they look at me in disbelief ... I am soMartahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13746334271218264678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-8843617356878850272011-06-09T18:12:55.903-07:002011-06-09T18:12:55.903-07:00I love this perspective. Especially that having ki...I love this perspective. Especially that having kids makes you older, not younger.Childfree Travelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02854028960948298012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-64654398518564280272011-06-09T16:24:47.625-07:002011-06-09T16:24:47.625-07:00Being around kids does anything but keep you young...Being around kids does anything but keep you young! I feel like these people who need to "see things again for the first time through the eyes of a child" are trying to replace/relive a childhood that didn't follow the script that they always heard it should. In other words, people who are unhappy with their own childhood. I also find it strange that they seem to need a child in Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00469912352453659215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-29269689379638397702011-06-09T14:01:31.799-07:002011-06-09T14:01:31.799-07:00I've never seen my brother-in-law happier than...I've never seen my brother-in-law happier than when he was watching cartoons with his baby, and I've never seen his partner happier than when she was buying new things for the house for the baby. After years of mindless escapism 'finding themselves' in India and copious amounts of drugs they moved onto a new mindless escapism - babies (with no job to support babies). We have a tv natashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13780045524192823366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-45894302748888393142011-06-09T12:41:17.509-07:002011-06-09T12:41:17.509-07:00I am a lot like you, Childfreeee. I'm almost ...I am a lot like you, Childfreeee. I'm almost 30, but I feel so much younger because I don't have kids. First off, I have time to exercise almost every day, so I do have a great body--any person that claims your body totally bounces back after having kids is lying. It definitely takes a toll on you. My sister is younger than me, but has two kids and another on the way and is constantlySpectrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867094255953299465noreply@blogger.com