tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post819428497818551453..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: Who Represents Us - Them or Us?Childfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-89829403914764624892012-10-03T11:56:04.572-07:002012-10-03T11:56:04.572-07:00I just wanted to say a person to person (via the i...I just wanted to say a person to person (via the internet, but still) thank you. You wrote something about striving to be an example for those coming after you, well I can say that as a 25 year old woman (I have known I didn't want kids since I was about 6 years old), you have achieved your goal. Your words are making it easier for me to navigate my life as a childfree individual living in a monahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04184487352558443230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-41343735469612414222012-04-30T13:33:00.424-07:002012-04-30T13:33:00.424-07:00Dee, I was totally going to bring up How I Met You...Dee, I was totally going to bring up How I Met Your Mother. It's a show I sometimes have trouble enjoying because it is fairly backwards with how it represents women. And of course the childfree (female) character is tomboyish, mean, selfish, and career-driven. And of course she's sad when she is found to be infertile. Also, does anyone else find Ted's quest to find the "mother DowagerLadyUrsulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07633245524821610887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-24992118721340219672012-04-15T11:38:50.707-07:002012-04-15T11:38:50.707-07:00I especially like the end of this post. It's g...I especially like the end of this post. It's good advice. I recently had someone give me a "When you have kids..." statement on FB. I replied with "I may not be having my own..." because I haven't made it widely known I decided not to have kids and didn't want family to have to find out through the comment. It didn't feel right though and I instantly wished I&#phoenixxphyrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11233924496911664541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-56619087354016298242012-04-15T11:36:49.672-07:002012-04-15T11:36:49.672-07:00I especially like the end of this post. It's g...I especially like the end of this post. It's good to remember. I just had someone give me a "when you have kids..." statement the other day on FB. I responded "I may not be having my own..." because I haven't made it widely known I have decided not to have kids and didn't want family to find out second hand. But it didn't feel right and I instantly wished I'phoenixxphyrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11233924496911664541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-64084296744608009332012-04-12T12:31:28.701-07:002012-04-12T12:31:28.701-07:00Dear Mandy,
first thing first: sorry for my englis...Dear Mandy,<br />first thing first: sorry for my english, but I am Italian :) So, I apologize in advance for any mistake.<br /><br />Second, I wanted to talk about childfreedom and how we can influence the life of other around us.<br />I wanted to talk, or write I guess, about my Aunt Giulia.<br /><br />She is not really my aunt. "Just" a real good friend of my mother.<br />And she is Tatyan.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02418406679707983388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-86452123413776540572012-04-12T11:08:54.436-07:002012-04-12T11:08:54.436-07:00In reply to Anna and the whole "you can alway...In reply to Anna and the whole "you can always adopt!" bingo:<br /><br />Imagine how the childed co-worker would feel if you told her that it's never too late to give your children up for adoption. She can still become childfree if she really wanted to. There are agencies out there to help her find new homes for her children.<br /><br />I mean, if she's encouraging you to be Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-65243004712449168532012-04-12T10:51:30.888-07:002012-04-12T10:51:30.888-07:00AND... just to lighten the mood (and sorry I keep ...AND... just to lighten the mood (and sorry I keep replying on your comments section - I don't know your email) have you ever read stfuparents?<br /><br />http://www.stfuparentsblog.com/<br /><br />It's hilarious. I love that woman.Tristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308103355956823405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-36199036111108316412012-04-12T10:43:47.058-07:002012-04-12T10:43:47.058-07:00Sorry to keep supplying you with information that ...Sorry to keep supplying you with information that will probably drive you right up the wall, but I read the following article about a year ago and it p*ssed me off:<br /><br />http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1185128/Why-bosses-right-distrust-women-dont-want-children--VERY-outspoken-mother-ex-boss.html<br /><br />Again - go for it.Tristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308103355956823405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-43684955381323434772012-04-12T05:53:19.009-07:002012-04-12T05:53:19.009-07:00It is unfortunate that this stereotype persists. A...It is unfortunate that this stereotype persists. A woman can't want kids only because of a career? Pfft.<br /><br />Though it was a one episode only appearance, Heather Graham played a childfree woman (a substitute teacher) on Arrested Development. She began a relationship with the man character (Jason Bateman) who was a widower with a teenage son. At the end of the episode, he tells her how Roxie Harlowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03373668018002491570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-403737258969760342012-04-12T01:48:59.918-07:002012-04-12T01:48:59.918-07:00Dee, I saw that episode and I too had mixed feelin...Dee, I saw that episode and I too had mixed feelings about it. I guess she was just sad about being infertile because it was no longer her choice not to have children, the choice was made for her (although it was still a choice really). The end was all about how she traveled the world and had an amazing career "and was never alone" but then showed her all sad which kinda undermined Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02190116553160954191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-82979683055107976172012-04-11T11:46:04.880-07:002012-04-11T11:46:04.880-07:00Heck, yeah. Represent.
With one caveat. This may ...Heck, yeah. Represent.<br /><br />With one caveat. This may not be a danger yet, but let's not overcompensate by going too far with fighting the stereotypes. I could be a cold, lonely, bitter workaholic person who just happens to be childfree. I'm not about to bend over backwards to prove to the world that I'm actually warm, friendly, generous, and love kids if I'm not really likeTemujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-52575273320752062302012-04-10T19:51:16.323-07:002012-04-10T19:51:16.323-07:00I went back to my small hometown in Indiana for Ea...I went back to my small hometown in Indiana for Easter. I was at the bar and ran into a girl who I knew a long time ago. She is 37 and has two kids, one of whom has Down's syndrome. I am 35 with no kids. Inevitably, she asked me if I had kids. I said no and that me and my husband have no intention of having any. To my surprise, her response was "Good for you. Kids are overrated." Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14494992161089991961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-89627643753230128912012-04-09T10:31:29.220-07:002012-04-09T10:31:29.220-07:00I've been told, "When you have kids somed...I've been told, "When you have kids someday let me just tell you..." <br /><br />And I've cut the person off and said, "I am not having kids."<br /><br />(I'm 30, by the way. FAR old enough to say it and not sound juvenile, nor sound like I don't know what I *want* in life.)<br /><br />And on more than ONE occasion, the other person says, "OH well you Tristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308103355956823405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-46994466014474031092012-04-09T09:23:59.231-07:002012-04-09T09:23:59.231-07:00Agreed agreed agreed with all of the above. :)
My...Agreed agreed agreed with all of the above. :)<br /><br />My boyfriend is a filmmaker and is actually currently working on a movie having to do with these ideas. Unfortunately, I don't think I'm at liberty to talk much about the plot (and I'm going to err on the side of safety, even if I am), but it's an awesome message and I'm super excited about it; I'll make sure to jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13899625892623617862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-76908184899456733082012-04-09T02:51:01.316-07:002012-04-09T02:51:01.316-07:00I completely agree. Society will never accept chil...I completely agree. Society will never accept childfree people as long as there are some who make excuses like "I wouldn't be a good mother", "I'm infertile", or "I don't have the mom gene". (I actually wrote a post about that just a few days ago on my own blog).<br /><br />If we ever want to be accepted by society, we have to stop acting like we need to Sherri.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08187622714900069066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-77515649562316505812012-04-08T22:56:29.531-07:002012-04-08T22:56:29.531-07:00That promotion crap always gets me angry. So the ...That promotion crap always gets me angry. So the childfree person should do all the work, hers and yours too, and give up all her evenings, weekends, and any other free time she has to do the job, change plans on a dime, cancel personal interests and endeavors to get the job done, but when it's time for rewards to be handed out on that suddenly all the work the childfree person did shouldn&#HarveyRequiemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14211338272331419373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-51443292377916373172012-04-08T19:03:29.139-07:002012-04-08T19:03:29.139-07:00There's another childfree character later on -...There's another childfree character later on - Anne Heche turns up as a love interest for Peter MacNicols and the subject of breeding comes between them.Sannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03887563528046709686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-28405213770751537852012-04-08T13:57:46.454-07:002012-04-08T13:57:46.454-07:00It's been ages since I've watched Ally McB...It's been ages since I've watched Ally McBeal but I remember being annoyed and disappointed with that episode too. But, I also seem to remember (it's a bit fuzzy now) being pleased that in future episodes the issue comes up again and Nell continues to hold her ground in much more positive ways. With the way it goes in that first episode that the issue comes up, you would think that Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04114109725814680256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-71411873188356772272012-04-08T13:43:12.577-07:002012-04-08T13:43:12.577-07:00Great post! And a great call to action. The more C...Great post! And a great call to action. The more Childfree voices that are heard that don't fall in line with these stereotypes, the quicker they can be dispelled. Bravo for putting this out there!Liz @ MaybeBabyMaybeNothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16986861200764361925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-82112276891189652642012-04-08T11:50:17.803-07:002012-04-08T11:50:17.803-07:00I forgot about that show, but I will have to watch...I forgot about that show, but I will have to watch it now that it's online. I most definitely do not lie about my choice or downplay my decision. I have no qualms about not wanting kids and I have a few CF friends that feel the same way. When you realize that you are by no means missing out, selfish, or a bitch who is incapable of loving kids, you realize that you can be perfectly capable Spectrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867094255953299465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-54916014314641708142012-04-08T10:43:32.584-07:002012-04-08T10:43:32.584-07:00Thank you for all that you do! You are an inspirat...Thank you for all that you do! You are an inspiration to me. Reading your blog has truly helped reinforce my decision to remain CF, and feel secure and happy with that decision.Person Personhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16203491095478396594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-41751965023288840852012-04-08T09:32:47.645-07:002012-04-08T09:32:47.645-07:00I've never heard of the show Ally McBeal befor...I've never heard of the show Ally McBeal before. Too bad Nell was a letdown, she did seem awesome at first.<br /><br />I'd love to think the fun-loving teacher Ms. Frizzle in the The Magic School Bus franchise is childfree. When she's done teaching her third graders for a day, she can go home and savor the quiet and calm atmosphere and can have a healthy or unhealthy dinner and enjoy kangamasfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09346266043526700231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-2131638049942404822012-04-08T08:57:01.344-07:002012-04-08T08:57:01.344-07:00Leave it to tv to perpetuate those stereotypes. I ...Leave it to tv to perpetuate those stereotypes. I feel though sometimes even if people see you as a happy well adjusted person once they find out you don't want kids you all of a sudden you become some evil cold hearted witch. <br />I am just getting used to the reaction I am getting from people when I tell them I plan to be child free and at 24 of course I get the you will change Tinishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14475798241588402637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-60666576615597134202012-04-08T07:16:43.345-07:002012-04-08T07:16:43.345-07:00Excellent post...so true and so inspiring. I hate...Excellent post...so true and so inspiring. I hate it when people pull those tired stereotypes into play.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com