tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post7905788785429670777..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: Mothers Spilling Their GutsChildfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-75380179536469608062016-10-01T20:31:53.460-07:002016-10-01T20:31:53.460-07:00Hi , I have a 4 and 2 year old , they both current...Hi , I have a 4 and 2 year old , they both currently in day care full time , but my son who is 4 constantly high energy , stubborn, very loud while my daughter , husband , and I are mild , layed back people . When he is home at the evenings and weekends he exhaust us , he only sleeps 7 hours at night and the rest of the time he screams , jumps , argues , try to do everything that is no no. Or he Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11380734354771639193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-43577682969281521162014-08-12T19:59:50.022-07:002014-08-12T19:59:50.022-07:00Glad to stumble upon this blog. I am child free an...Glad to stumble upon this blog. I am child free and do intend to stay that way. I few times I could have gotten pregnant and ultimately got "that man" but I never wanted "that man" "that situation" or "that life". Growing up I had few female role models who didn't have kids. I found them though, in the real world through jobs I had strong mentors. Very Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-22945560651585404032014-01-05T13:39:10.288-08:002014-01-05T13:39:10.288-08:00Meeting a man, falling in love and having kids is ...Meeting a man, falling in love and having kids is the biggest con ever and I really cannot believe how many of us have been duped. The whole thing is an absolute cruel joke ! It really has got to stop , the whole miserable idea. Stay childless , stay single ... fall in love with yourself , fall in love with your life . Come on girls , enough is enough . Don't fall for it . Motherhood is a Page Readhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09267422412732951570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-36531001447046371812013-12-08T14:35:27.894-08:002013-12-08T14:35:27.894-08:00Wow, I commend you women for being so transparent....Wow, I commend you women for being so transparent. I can only imagine how hard it is! I am 41 and knew at 13 I did not want kids. I am constantly being bombarded by friends/family telling me how wonderful it is and I should have one. The truth is their lives do not appeal to me. Women with children should be put on a pedestal. It is tough work I know I would never want to do.carrie bradshawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01944173347340959395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-45879342211555179102013-10-05T06:57:41.896-07:002013-10-05T06:57:41.896-07:00I was in a three and a half year relationship with...I was in a three and a half year relationship with a man who has three kids. When I met him I was 20 years old and wasn't looking for someone with kids, we just happened to start dating and fell in love. His kids (6, 5 and 4 years old now) are all boys with the same mom. I lived with this man for 3 years and never had the kids visit for more then a week. I was always very nice and played Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-41816959965510653612013-03-18T10:04:49.017-07:002013-03-18T10:04:49.017-07:00Honestly i have so much to say on this but my 4 yr...Honestly i have so much to say on this but my 4 yr old it screaming at me telling me he hates me. I hate him too.i wish i wanst here. Dont get me wrong i dont wanna die. just wish it never happened. doesnt help with a mother that tells me im disgusting for sending them to their dads ona friday nite!! please bloody help me<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390154692384696866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-28464158261390586432012-08-16T14:56:58.648-07:002012-08-16T14:56:58.648-07:00Great blog! Thanks massively for posting. I have n...Great blog! Thanks massively for posting. I have never ever ever been able to even imagine wanting to have children. I'm the eldest of five and that was enough for me. <br /><br />I do feel desperately sorry for those who made the choice to become a parent and regret it. <br /><br />Just remember that these years will pass and you will emerge the other side unscathed. <br /><br />Also, I see Beckihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13675445890120365223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-69208932308445613272012-05-13T06:44:16.719-07:002012-05-13T06:44:16.719-07:00To babynot - some of us born in the 50s have not b...To babynot - some of us born in the 50s have not been persuaded to have children. In my case I happened to marry a decent guy who had the courage the to ask me early on in the piece what my feelings about children were. It was a relief to not have to cross that bridge after we fell in love! Be strong and true to yourself.ML Tuckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18306196522424834380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-16959395500299472042012-05-12T09:23:41.091-07:002012-05-12T09:23:41.091-07:00Best blog ever! My mom had me at 16 and I was rais...Best blog ever! My mom had me at 16 and I was raised by my grandparents, thank god. My bio-mom, as I call her behind her back is a self indulgent socio-path who says things like, "now that Mom is dead I can be a real mother to you." Eww, no thanks, I'm 41 and don't need a mommy! I can't stand being around her, she's a complete embarrassment and we have nothing in common,Fur Kid Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06926105432377693271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-60726314377489707502012-03-19T14:15:24.014-07:002012-03-19T14:15:24.014-07:00I am the mother of 2 kids myself. I am only 23 yea...I am the mother of 2 kids myself. I am only 23 years of age and I have a 3 year old and a 6 year old.<br /><br />I became pregnant with my first when I was only 16 and the next when I was 20. It took me awhile to quite lying to myself to to relise, to truly relise, that I had given birth 2 times, both of them to keep a man or please others.<br /><br />I tried forever to 'make the best of it&#Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09566731801140164736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-91753523767129405442010-11-19T07:25:56.012-08:002010-11-19T07:25:56.012-08:00TLO, exactly. You will rarely if EVER hear a chil...TLO, exactly. You will rarely if EVER hear a childfree person complaining about being childfree. The biggest complaints we have are usually about people passing negative judgements on us for our choice, and certain discriminations we face (fewer tax breaks, etc). But the childfree life itself is fantastic. Unlike parents who have to suffer through a whole lot of drugery to get some enjoyment Childfreeeeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-66644374437309762422010-11-19T04:24:40.967-08:002010-11-19T04:24:40.967-08:00I try not to generalize about any one "group&...I try not to generalize about any one "group", but the difference is that while these women clearly SOMETIMES (at the very least) do hate being parents, I am NEVER lonely--or whatever it is people assume about the childfree. Relieved? Yes. Happy to have an amazing husband and two dogs? Yes. Happy to be able to explore my work and creative passions? Yes. Lonely? Not one bit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-36246915623620053962010-11-18T16:35:49.664-08:002010-11-18T16:35:49.664-08:00I knew more than 45 years ago that I didn't wa...I knew more than 45 years ago that I didn't want to breed.critterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14331359234846241164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-60326618248857852942010-11-17T20:07:55.821-08:002010-11-17T20:07:55.821-08:00Y'all know that for many women, these thoughts...Y'all know that for many women, these thoughts are passing, born of being tired, busy, nagged at, what have you. It would be rare to see a parent who says it is ALWAYS like this, just as you'd never see a childfree individual saying they're ALWAYS lonely or whatever else people assume about them.<br /><br />Having children is exhausting, but also rewarding. Like any job, some days arethordorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04162106158955358865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-30744619785383241362010-11-17T08:08:45.590-08:002010-11-17T08:08:45.590-08:00Now here's a story Oprah or other media should...Now here's a story Oprah or other media should jump on. Yeah, right. It may not be PC bit it is the truth and perhaps an open dialogue would allow young women - and men - to realize there is a choice and they should ask themselves the question: "do I want kids? Can I handle kids?". And then answer honestly. I'm reminded of a college lecture of a lesbian couple who attended a Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18205302651920801280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-48629471325988362882010-11-16T22:21:42.401-08:002010-11-16T22:21:42.401-08:00So much hurt and anger and despair...
Just sounds...So much hurt and anger and despair...<br /><br />Just sounds like there's a whole lot of bad parenting (and absent-husbanding) involved here.<br /><br />If the family is committed as a whole, and does things the right way, it doesn't have to be so unbearable. Sure, there are days. But what part of Life doesn't have those?!Naveen Bachwanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08980400293882176465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-16206502325455672392010-11-16T19:35:50.663-08:002010-11-16T19:35:50.663-08:00A friend of mine who had her first baby last year ...A friend of mine who had her first baby last year is always complaining about how hard it is - she never has time to herself, she can't clean, she can't sleep, she doesn't have any family around to help, she's just starting out in her career and trying to build a business while being a new mom, etc etc. I feel bad for her but this pregnancy was 100% planned. <br /><br />Every Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00399216098293357874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-65542110175846589492010-11-16T19:24:24.890-08:002010-11-16T19:24:24.890-08:00Well I DO feel bad for most of these people becaus...Well I DO feel bad for most of these people because although they chose this, their choices were not well informed. I could blame them for that, but unlike cigarettes, society glorifies motherhood (as most of us know). And most of these women bought the load of crap that we call a BINGO (it's different when it's yours). I would have an extra hundred bucks in my pocket if could cash in ChildfreeNYChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00377068206396739405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-44119153475889453172010-11-16T14:45:15.257-08:002010-11-16T14:45:15.257-08:00Wow. A part of me really feels for these women. Bu...Wow. A part of me really feels for these women. But the other part of my brain reminds me that some of them <i>chose</i> to be mothers. It's hard to make such a life changing choice and then realize that you're getting the short end of the stick. I'm just thankful that I was able to make the right choice for me and that was to be childfree.LadyTygerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08861857104118811601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-32895610556092239502010-11-16T12:52:52.811-08:002010-11-16T12:52:52.811-08:00My mom was one of those people that got pregnant o...My mom was one of those people that got pregnant on her honeymoon with me and just felt like that's "what you did" when you got married. I don't think she really thought she had a choice and I think that if she HAD waited and thought about the consequences of her decision, she might have made some other choices. She really wasn't a great mom--she was impatient and Spectrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867094255953299465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-34890416396014169072010-11-16T09:23:32.138-08:002010-11-16T09:23:32.138-08:00Sometimes I think it is difficult to be cf, to fac...Sometimes I think it is difficult to be cf, to face the disapproval and constant pressure to conform. Then I remind myself of the unhappy automatons all around me who gave in, all for their own very selfish reasons, and then I realize how light my burden really is. How very freaking light! <br /><br />I don't feel sorry for these women. It's great that they have an outlet that may serve Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00469912352453659215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-26449171758278832832010-11-16T08:46:39.069-08:002010-11-16T08:46:39.069-08:00WOW! It's funny because all I ever hear about ...WOW! It's funny because all I ever hear about (on facebook mostly) from all of my mother "friends" are: how obsessed they are with their children, how they believe that their children are the spawn of angles and how wonderful it is to be a mom. hmmmm.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-14440673102006232712010-11-15T21:05:29.496-08:002010-11-15T21:05:29.496-08:00I am filled with such sadness for these people! W...I am filled with such sadness for these people! WOW. <br /><br />Today, I am thankful for formats like this, that allow people to know that there are other options. One DOES NOT have to join the car pool and pop out tax deductions! Stay-at-home-mom is not the only choice out there! There is a choice! <br /><br />Maybe, just maybe, the next generation will start to get that they are free to redwings19https://www.blogger.com/profile/10181928000013448805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-33496554888479389712010-11-15T18:20:57.643-08:002010-11-15T18:20:57.643-08:00Funny how the truth comes out when people can post...Funny how the truth comes out when people can post anonymously.<br /><br />If you want to experience another dose of schadenfreude, just Google "I hate being a mom" or "I hate being a parent." There are TONS of people admitting that it's just not worth it!CFVixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777723818313211020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-1999086334279582672010-11-15T16:48:47.158-08:002010-11-15T16:48:47.158-08:00I read through a bunch of the comments on the post...I read through a bunch of the comments on the post. It's very sad. It's kind of like a love hate thing with a lot of them. Is the love worth the hate? For some of them yes and for some probably not.CeCehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01390627453974953641noreply@blogger.com