tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post7831870959482236565..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: Answer this QuestionChildfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-29838016257002670342012-05-23T02:25:38.199-07:002012-05-23T02:25:38.199-07:00Since you bring no evidence to the table, I looked...Since you bring no evidence to the table, I looked for some and only found one study. It seems to somewhat contradict your claim:<br /><br />http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15039513<br /><br />"The short-term emotional reactions to miscarriage appear to be larger and more powerful than those to induced abortion. In the long term, however, women who had induced abortion reported Francois Tremblayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04760072622693359795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-64608332288783391232012-05-22T10:48:30.322-07:002012-05-22T10:48:30.322-07:00If it is a forced abortion, of someone who wants t...If it is a forced abortion, of someone who wants to have a kid, it does cause damage. It is also high the amount of women who wants a baby, finally get pregnant but ended up loosing the child. My intention was nor talk about abortions that women choose to have, those are almost a no problem issue.Artemishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14458069887923029109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-43450803766379950732012-05-18T02:36:33.796-07:002012-05-18T02:36:33.796-07:00Actually, it is a common belief that abortions are...Actually, it is a common belief that abortions are psychologically damaging, but that's not true. According to a Danish study done on 350,000 women (Induced First-Trimester Abortion and Risk of Mental Disorder, NEJM 2011), women who give birth are tremendously more at risk of psychiatric problems (72% rise in cases) than woman who get abortions (4% rise in cases).Francois Tremblayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04760072622693359795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-34232148352832754342012-05-17T15:34:41.142-07:002012-05-17T15:34:41.142-07:00Forcing an abortion and vasectomies in people can ...Forcing an abortion and vasectomies in people can cause a huge damage to many people´s mind. For abortions, for example, it is as bad as seeing a beloved one being killed in front of you, while you can not do anything to defend. Vasectomies are a bit traumatizing too, since many, many men still thinks it will cause some damage in their sexual relationships. It would also mean causing pain and Artemishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14458069887923029109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-69310213786318921342012-05-14T13:15:02.242-07:002012-05-14T13:15:02.242-07:00Vasectomies and forced abortions.Vasectomies and forced abortions.Francois Tremblayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04760072622693359795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-35068246926148458182012-05-13T06:49:03.905-07:002012-05-13T06:49:03.905-07:00I agree with a number of posters. I don't kno...I agree with a number of posters. I don't know that I would call procreation a "right," as much as it is simply an "unavoidable physical reality." Obviously most people can choose NOT to procreate, but on the whole, there is no way to regulate it. It just is and will be. It WILL happen short of locking people up, forcing surgeries, or forcing people to take hormones. Happily CFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05912934107614153098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-11518119247504058792012-05-12T19:48:32.855-07:002012-05-12T19:48:32.855-07:00The question of regulation is interesting.
Howeve...The question of regulation is interesting.<br /><br />However, this story bothered me because I believe authorities to be focusing on this woman because she's clearly crazy, and clearly an easy target. What about parents who bring kids to the beach and don't put on sunscreen, and let them get serious burns? My parents used to do that, and I don't think they were neglectful parents Happily CFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05912934107614153098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-72044305256257979592012-05-10T16:57:40.623-07:002012-05-10T16:57:40.623-07:00And once again I repeat: there cannot be a right t...And once again I repeat: there cannot be a right to procreate, because there is no such thing as a right that hurts other people. That's called privilege, not a right. <br /><br />If you can prove beyond a reasonable doubt that no amount of bad parenting or negligent parenting can affect the children subjected to it, then you might have a case. Otherwise, forget it.Francois Tremblayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04760072622693359795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-608538581464566512012-05-10T14:05:52.715-07:002012-05-10T14:05:52.715-07:00If you can prove that procreation is a right, then...If you can prove that procreation is a right, then do so. Otherwise, you're starting from a false assumption. <br /><br />"Secondly, how would a society ensure that those deemed unfit to parent remain infertile? Will the government force women to take pills, get hormone shots, get operations or wear chastity belts?"<br /><br />There is no need for any of this. As in China, one couldFrancois Tremblayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04760072622693359795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-67421589025109402182012-05-09T21:40:13.236-07:002012-05-09T21:40:13.236-07:00Should parenting be a privelidge instead of a righ...Should parenting be a privelidge instead of a right? I dont think so. In theory, it sounds good, but in reality I think it would be a disaster. <br /><br />First of all, this is giving the government way to much power. You just know if the government were in charge of choosing who gets to be parents and who doesn't they would fuck it up royally.<br /><br />Secondly, how would a society ensureKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05055389691627951863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-90610870308226233292012-05-09T05:34:53.942-07:002012-05-09T05:34:53.942-07:00Since I work in a prison and see the men who procr...Since I work in a prison and see the men who procreate without thinking twice about it and never see/talk to their kids again I ask myself this question every.single.day. I have no idea why we haven't done this yet.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10356227051559253650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-85741330103576616552012-05-08T03:35:31.538-07:002012-05-08T03:35:31.538-07:00No, I don't think bodily autonomy is a "b...No, I don't think bodily autonomy is a "basic human right," insofar as you seem to understand it as including the "right" to create harm. Your rights end where those of others begin.<br /><br />Ultimately this little exchange we're engaged in is based on methodological individualism, which I think is flawed, but even if we restrict ourselves to individual rights and Francois Tremblayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04760072622693359795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-73090308305421370572012-05-07T18:34:05.890-07:002012-05-07T18:34:05.890-07:00Francois Tremblay - you caught me in a hastily wri...Francois Tremblay - you caught me in a hastily written remark. I didn't mean that parenthood is fundamental to our humanity. I should have been clearer that our right to choose parenthood or not is fundamental to our humanity - bodily autonomy I think is roundly understood to be a basic human right. That said, I actually wrote that parenthood is MORE fundamental to our humanity than Almost Alrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08550702198860435010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-1515058309215799102012-05-07T12:29:51.309-07:002012-05-07T12:29:51.309-07:00"Parenthood is a right because it's more ..."Parenthood is a right because it's more important and more fundamental to our humanity than the ability to drive."<br /><br />No it's not. I have no idea what would make anyone say such a bizarre thing. Having children is not necessary for any biological or social function.<br /><br /><br />"I understand the point as a flip remark,"<br /><br />For me, anyway, it'sFrancois Tremblayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04760072622693359795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-31567190390344666622012-05-07T10:59:38.405-07:002012-05-07T10:59:38.405-07:00I just had a huge revelation about parenting and r...I just had a huge revelation about parenting and respect for parents. <br /><br />If our society really, truly, honestly treated parenthood as a choice, and if most parents could give thoughtful reasons for choosing to reproduce, then parents would have no need to complain about any lack of respect for parents. If the vast majority of pregnancies were planned instead of ONLY HALF, then a lot of Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-48124826717736763072012-05-07T07:33:44.140-07:002012-05-07T07:33:44.140-07:00I understand the sentiment expressed, but want to ...I understand the sentiment expressed, but want to point out that it also echoes the rational behind the very real and tragic history of eugenics in this country. <br /><br />It's this kind of thinking which has lead to forced sterilizations of poor women, women of color and other women who have been perceived as "unfit" for motherhood. <br /><br />Parenthood is a right because it&Almost Alrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08550702198860435010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-4942621011458284152012-05-07T03:39:04.236-07:002012-05-07T03:39:04.236-07:00I agree that it would take away freedom but I don&...I agree that it would take away freedom but I don't believe people should have the freedom to do something without regulation when it infringes on the freedoms of others. What about the right of the child NOT to be born to an unfit parent? Since when should the right of a parent to satisfy their ego outweigh the right of the child? Yes everyone should be able to choose their family... oh Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02190116553160954191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-52892312220275753202012-05-06T12:48:55.579-07:002012-05-06T12:48:55.579-07:00I see no reason to respect people's choice to ...I see no reason to respect people's choice to start new human lives. As someone else pointed out, there is no right to procreate. There can be no right to do something that creates harm.Francois Tremblayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04760072622693359795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-27106003977482898612012-05-04T06:58:45.395-07:002012-05-04T06:58:45.395-07:00I disagree with Syn-"Say the opposite were tr...I disagree with Syn-"Say the opposite were true, and we were in a population decline. If people started demanding childfree folk have kids to save the human race, we'd all be pretty angry." DEMANDING people have children is not the same thing as restricting them from having them. It would be imposing a huge BURDEN on them emotionally and financially. That doesn't happen if shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11231859755559008915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-73557862503060848282012-05-04T06:37:53.015-07:002012-05-04T06:37:53.015-07:00I am also an attorney and I think the biggest prob...I am also an attorney and I think the biggest problem with regulating who can and cannot have kids is that at every point in the process, someone is making a judgment call for someone else based on their own personal beliefs of what makes a fit parent. I agree that I wish there were minimal standards, but I think it would be hard to get everyone to agree on what the minimal standards are, Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14891905645531339658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-44737130328651011482012-05-04T00:14:54.401-07:002012-05-04T00:14:54.401-07:00*shivers* The mother looks like a victim of a fire...*shivers* The mother looks like a victim of a fire with her tan!<br /><br />Nutley Police is funny. It must tempt people to draw a line across the upper part of "l" in Nutley.kangamasfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09346266043526700231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-41571112086485437582012-05-03T13:55:46.975-07:002012-05-03T13:55:46.975-07:00I've been an avid reader of your blog for quit...I've been an avid reader of your blog for quite some time, but this will be my first comment. I'm in the minority here, but I'm going to disagree to an extent. I am avidly pro-choice. That means respecting <i>everyone's</i> choice, whether it's different from mine or not. I've seen plenty of people who probably should never have had children. Hell, I <i>know</i> people whoSynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02193008124409438373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-89329423135855170422012-05-03T11:06:23.563-07:002012-05-03T11:06:23.563-07:00Long time reader, first time poster. Clearly ther...Long time reader, first time poster. Clearly there are too many people unsuited for parenthood who are having kids anyway. But it's also clear that government regulation via a licensing scheme wouldn't work - because of having kids/sex is easy (alifewithoutkids), because of constitutional protections (see Z), because no one wants more bureaucracy... I think the answer is two-fold:<br /LZDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17748076472935459763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-24065223887181941452012-05-03T09:17:20.121-07:002012-05-03T09:17:20.121-07:00You know what's interesting...One day I was re...You know what's interesting...One day I was reading a website from an adoption agency (purely out of curiosity) and one phrase they used was "adopting a child is not a right." <br /><br />This was after they had explained in detail all the qualifications potential parents need to have. <br /><br />I totally agree with them, that adopting a child is not a right. It's interesting Freelance Feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18092340281129630966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-50271649681212710212012-05-03T08:24:11.952-07:002012-05-03T08:24:11.952-07:00Oh my god - this is what I wondered for decades. W...Oh my god - this is what I wondered for decades. Why isn't there a test you have to pass to be a parent? Having taught elementary school for 27 years I saw so many parents who were no more fit to raise children than they were to fly to the moon.shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11231859755559008915noreply@blogger.com