tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post7581392469875030539..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: The Parallel UniverseChildfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-77223439670159658432011-12-19T04:56:42.425-08:002011-12-19T04:56:42.425-08:00Where I live in Spain there is no so much of a thi...Where I live in Spain there is no so much of a thing as a pro-natalist enforcement. Spaniards have children very late in life not because of lack of desire, but postponement, so at 31 I don't really feel too much pressure to breed. Even so, most people think it's something you just do it sooner or later, even if it's at 40. <br />I don't really care about what other people think, Irehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08734359627836257734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-33901770560876898102009-04-21T01:28:00.000-07:002009-04-21T01:28:00.000-07:00Lovely, lovely post.
The first time I had inkli...Lovely, lovely post. <br /><br />The first time I had inklings of childfree feelings (literally, my first dance at my wedding with my new husband), it was barely a whisper I allowed myself to hear. Slowly, I turned over these thoughts in my own head: "What if..." "Why do I have to..."<br /><br />Eventually, I turned to the internet. When I found the sort of community I did - the welling up ofElliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01475678352005103893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-29526620628306520412009-04-18T15:15:00.000-07:002009-04-18T15:15:00.000-07:00I certainly think being child-free is lonely somet...I certainly think being child-free is lonely sometimes. I have ZERO friends that are child-free besides my boyfriend. I don't particularly want to be part of the mommy masses competing against each other for the perfect child, but I wish I had someone other than my boyfriend to talk about it with. <br /><br />It's not a popular lifestyle, though, so I haven't ever felt part of the eyemandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16639859329294555233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-48968105633980307042009-04-18T14:46:00.000-07:002009-04-18T14:46:00.000-07:00Also, parents spend £14,000 on a baby's first year...Also, <A HREF="http://www.shropshirestar.com/2009/04/15/and-baby-makes-it-a-27500-bill/" REL="nofollow">parents spend £14,000 on a baby's first year</A> during which working mums give up £6,667 in income to stay at home caring for said baby.<br /><br />Nope. Can't relate.Wag the Doghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06523201507972211984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-33636623914362431342009-04-18T13:22:00.000-07:002009-04-18T13:22:00.000-07:00This is exactly how I feel. I mean, I have some h...This is exactly how I feel. I mean, I have some hectic stuff going on with my attempt to graduate college by December, but nothing that relates to kids.<br /><br />Everything's about kids. CNN's lifestyle section, about kids; the news the other morning was about how to tell if you need to take little Johnny to the emergency room or can deal with the problems at home. My friends have kids, mostMaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08959631062400383327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-30966794246593474362009-04-18T03:47:00.000-07:002009-04-18T03:47:00.000-07:00When people around me (family, friends, barely kno...When people around me (family, friends, barely known people) decided it was time for me to know they wanted me to have a baby as soon as possible, with no regards to my feelings, my dreams or my opinions, I felt as the world started spinning in the opposite direction.<br /><br />Then I found out that actually people from a different country, educational background and culture, think the very samemarinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11659296002311186807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-75348790166325617302009-04-17T18:00:00.000-07:002009-04-17T18:00:00.000-07:00I have to admit that I do sometimes feel like I am...I have to admit that I do sometimes feel like I am running in 12 different directions. Then I find myself feeling guilty, because I don't have kids & I still can't do it all?? Then I get mad at myself -- not having kids doesn't mean that I'm not a busy person in my own way. <br /><br />But I totally agree with you about the whole feeling of living in a parallel universe!loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-72593342879359603382009-04-17T17:56:00.000-07:002009-04-17T17:56:00.000-07:00Oh, yes--same planet, different worlds. Watching ...Oh, yes--same planet, different worlds. Watching everyone else do things you don't, and not understanding why they do it. And because of that most people figure you have no common ground with them. Often they are right: to be female and childfree is like being an uncatalogued species. We look female, sure, but approach the world more like a man would: following our desire to pursue a career, Schrodinger's Kittenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05254361271490888350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-1888095733796158212009-04-17T17:01:00.000-07:002009-04-17T17:01:00.000-07:00Every single day I see or hear about something in ...Every single day I see or hear about something in the news that reminds me how happy I am to be childfree. Sexual predators attacking our children online! The rising costs of tuition! Autism! High school shootings! Teen pregnancy! …the list goes on and on and I get to blissfully ignore most of it. <br /><br />A friend of mine with 2 children is going through a divorce. She repeatedly told me how Miss Mohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16742048378836878685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-73725504442401396372009-04-17T14:50:00.000-07:002009-04-17T14:50:00.000-07:00This is why I love the internet. Just when you th...This is why I love the internet. Just when you think you're lonely, you can find like-minded people :) It does make for a sad life after many years. I'd trade the internet for real life friends any day.charliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03902733661444681611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-84237561311309831082009-04-17T12:59:00.000-07:002009-04-17T12:59:00.000-07:00OMG, I loved this post. It totally resonates with...OMG, I loved this post. It totally resonates with me as I always feel like I'm "supposed" to feel like I'm on the outside looking in because I don't fit societal norms or expectations. Yet I'm so happy not to be on the inside. I look in and see misery and torment. I see no choices, exhaustion, and entrapment. Then I turn around and see my life. Free. Open. Happy. Content. Calm. Joyful.CFVixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777723818313211020noreply@blogger.com