tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post5748615234753675586..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: Selfish SaintsChildfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-47202019060837319772011-02-10T15:18:05.440-08:002011-02-10T15:18:05.440-08:00Ironic that, from what little I know about Catholi...Ironic that, from what little I know about Catholic theology, many of the martyrs who became Catholic saints were people who had no children, or at least the martyrdom legends don't mention any. I don't know if she's been canonized yet, but Mother Teresa would be a good modern-day example. (Irony within irony, she was childfree and still called "Mother".)Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-16366679839641037022008-11-14T06:41:00.000-08:002008-11-14T06:41:00.000-08:00P.S. Yes, I saw that kindergarchy article...very ...P.S. Yes, I saw that kindergarchy article...very good article and a lot of truth to it.Childfreeeeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-10992755985912510352008-11-14T06:35:00.000-08:002008-11-14T06:35:00.000-08:00Thanks, Ellie. It is interesting to hear a parent...Thanks, Ellie. It is interesting to hear a parent's viewpoint on this blog. I am glad you don't mind most of it insulting. I never think there are parents reading it when I write it (which is probably a good thing - it keeps me inhibited). These are the things I don't really say too much in my every day life because I just don't feel like dealing with all the weird looks and judgement. But Childfreeeeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-3618079628378802282008-11-13T09:45:00.000-08:002008-11-13T09:45:00.000-08:00"So tell me...what is it about my blog that appeal..."So tell me...what is it about my blog that appeals to you as a mom? I hope you don't find any of it too insulting (I know I get revved up at times)."<BR/>Lol. No. I don't find your blog insulting, at least 99% of the time ;)<BR/>What I DO find insulting is the looks I got when I mentioned my 10-days Hawaiian vacation sans my 5-year old daughter. Never mind that I am a single parent and really Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211844307344094231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-23526269447380634122008-11-11T08:31:00.000-08:002008-11-11T08:31:00.000-08:00Thanks for your comment Ellie. I like the idea of...Thanks for your comment Ellie. I like the idea of a man's day and woman's day - or how about people's day? Actually, when you think about it, the holidays are a little out of control. Here in the US we call them "Hallmark Holidays" because we suspect that the company Hallmark (a greeting card and gift company) created them to drum up business.<BR/><BR/>So tell me...what is it about my blog Childfreeeeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-70647558677130171762008-11-11T08:21:00.000-08:002008-11-11T08:21:00.000-08:00I don't like the fact that US has Mother's Day and...I don't like the fact that US has Mother's Day and Father's Day. And I am a mother, by the way! (One human child, one feline child). <BR/><BR/>In the country I was born we celebrate Women's Day and Men's Day. Seems more fair to me this way ;) I'm afraid that American society would never give up the breeding-status-related holidays :/ As long as majority has this unhealthy attitude about parentingAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211844307344094231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-41624353940183920572008-11-07T11:30:00.000-08:002008-11-07T11:30:00.000-08:00Thanks for all your comments, everyone.I agree the...Thanks for all your comments, everyone.<BR/><BR/>I agree the martyrdom thing makes me completely crazy. My mom was a total martyr (still is) and I remember even as a young child thinking, "you are the one who chose this life so why are you bellyaching about it?"<BR/><BR/>The "oh, poor me" thing is just so old.Childfreeeeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-29162123368287508142008-11-06T11:58:00.000-08:002008-11-06T11:58:00.000-08:00Wonderful post! I used to know a woman simliar to ...Wonderful post! I used to know a woman simliar to the one firefly described who had a messed up family that was mostly her fault and seemed to do everything in her power to keep it that way. Even though all four of them (yes, the whole family: Moo, Duh, Bratliegh and Princess) were in therapy and on various medications, they were still incredibly messed up and yet she was convinced that she was Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-14344784506876632262008-11-06T09:58:00.000-08:002008-11-06T09:58:00.000-08:00Yes it is selfish, we all are to a point.I never d...Yes it is selfish, we all are to a point.<BR/>I never did understand the martyrdom that some mothers claim and carry around. It's not like someone puts a gun to your head and says you must reproduce or your beloved ones suffer and die.<BR/>If I ever become a mother, it will be because I wanted to for my own selfish reasons.<BR/>I don't see anything wrong with it, since sometimes our desires are Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17363847055178499778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-64706281794373569872008-11-05T12:17:00.000-08:002008-11-05T12:17:00.000-08:00I agree whole heartedly.I agree whole heartedly.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923049494756911105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-24048053349829848162008-11-05T12:08:00.000-08:002008-11-05T12:08:00.000-08:00Great rant. You are so right!What is really sad, t...Great rant. You are so right!<BR/><BR/>What is really sad, though, is that mothers (like my MIL) whose families are not perfect and even maybe totally dysfunctional still get to delude themselves into believing the whole mythology. They are not just saints, they are MARTYRS to the family cause, and the family? is just plain ungrateful and selfish for not recognizing them as such. <BR/><BR/>They fireflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08288800598812287691noreply@blogger.com