tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post4450260919709423443..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: A Very Uncomfortable BedChildfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-18270072829504512942011-01-04T08:12:59.553-08:002011-01-04T08:12:59.553-08:00Oh, this story makes me sad.
I just have to comme...Oh, this story makes me sad.<br /><br />I just have to comment on the "it's not general gender bias" thing. Well, IT IS. Because women may carry the babies in their wombs but the babies are not only their responsibility. They are also the father's. It IS gender discrimination if a society works in such a way that because I have a working womb I dont get a job because people Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14328792036221767525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-65024587189677428782010-11-16T19:11:47.202-08:002010-11-16T19:11:47.202-08:00I just wanted to comment on that last part of your...I just wanted to comment on that last part of your story...once in a while (very rarely) I meet someone in the office who I think may be chidfree by choice like me and I get so happy thinking, could it REALLY be someone like me? A freak like me? And EVERY time, I swear, they take the mommy path within a year or so of my potential discovery. I'm still the only one I know at my office of ChildfreeNYChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00377068206396739405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-49230095129790157202010-11-14T19:56:17.848-08:002010-11-14T19:56:17.848-08:00I have worked with some women who were AMAZINGLY g...I have worked with some women who were AMAZINGLY good at juggling parenthood and work and never left their responsibilities for others - if they had to miss time at work for a sick kid or something, they were there late at night or on the weekend to make up for it. And I've actually never worked with anyone who used kids as an excuse to slack off. But I have worked with women who think theyDianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00399216098293357874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-51556335618066085282010-11-14T19:14:56.933-08:002010-11-14T19:14:56.933-08:00I'm reminded of my 40-year-old co-worker who c...I'm reminded of my 40-year-old co-worker who could not be more excited to become a grandmother because her 16-year-old daughter is knocked up to some boy who wants nothing to do with her anymore. <br /><br />All I can think of us what a drain some of these situations are on society AND on us, whose taxes will be going to support public assistance programs, medical assistance, food stamps, Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025529442088316103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-133780009510089022010-11-14T12:02:56.245-08:002010-11-14T12:02:56.245-08:00Where I work the office administrator got pregnant...Where I work the office administrator got pregnant & took her year of mat leave, during which her replacement didn't really do a very good job. The admin came back and within a year was pregnant again. We still haven't recovered from her first absence, and now she's off on leave again! But you can't say anything...<br /><br />We had a man take parental leave a few years ago.Christine Szabohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15362421202890726100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-44784502226556727352010-11-13T08:22:22.519-08:002010-11-13T08:22:22.519-08:00The 9-5 office job structure is not friendly to an...The 9-5 office job structure is not friendly to anyone who has care-giving responsibilities. On top of that, society still expects the female parent to do most of the work of child-rearing. This is purely anecdotal, but of my co-workers who recently had children, in all cases the parent who went back to work part-time was the mother, never the father. As long as women keep agreeing to do that, weShantala Mukherjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03649162744064398064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-3775837811232803592010-11-13T07:43:19.949-08:002010-11-13T07:43:19.949-08:00I've known single mothers who are full time em...I've known single mothers who are full time employees and they are good at their jobs, so not all single mother workers are bad. Also, I do get upset when I hear male colleagues complain that it's not fair that women get paid as much as them when they get maternity leave. Then perhaps we should let dads take the time off too so it’s fair that way instead of cutting women’s pay since not Fanboy Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03543885221904172330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-61956383585781884302010-11-12T15:56:46.306-08:002010-11-12T15:56:46.306-08:00Absolutely, women have created this situation for ...Absolutely, women have created this situation for all of us, including the cf. But you can't say that, or everyone will hate you. <br /><br />I'm currently friends with a woman who had a baby in miserable conditions. What do I say? I am getting so effing sick of hearing about how awful her life is now, and how she had no warning that this would happen whatsoever. I'm tellin' you, Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00469912352453659215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-16121391945767973122010-11-12T06:04:11.100-08:002010-11-12T06:04:11.100-08:00Another facet of the glass ceiling is that many of...Another facet of the glass ceiling is that many of those women who are childfree still suffer because of their employers' assumptions that they will someday have children and become unreliable employees. Not because of anything we have done, but because of what they think we MIGHT someday do.Blisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14058250470910010596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-47611271658951634992010-11-11T13:16:27.022-08:002010-11-11T13:16:27.022-08:00It's like you are in my brain! I have this co...It's like you are in my brain! I have this conversation all of the time with my female friends (or the ones I have left anyway). <br /><br />I think it's irresponsible to be a mother and a full-time employee. I seriously think that mothers in the work place give us childree women a bad name, especially single mothers. They are the worst employees.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-6128047058710866892010-11-11T13:08:53.284-08:002010-11-11T13:08:53.284-08:00I know that in our lab, many of the women I work w...I know that in our lab, many of the women I work with are moms and they CHOOSE to work part-time or 30 hrs/wk so that they can have more time to be with their kids. They get paid the same as any male lab tech, but they are the ones choosing the reduced hours for the sake of their families. IMHO, that's part of the reason that most women make less money than men do, even when they have the Spectrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867094255953299465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-37169675784229649172010-11-11T11:39:44.109-08:002010-11-11T11:39:44.109-08:00After Charlene gives birth, her misery will change...After Charlene gives birth, her misery will change from internal to external. And that will last a lot longer than 9 months.<br /><br />And you will end up having to train a new employee or deal with a less productive and less happy Charlene.<br /><br />Looks like a lose-lose proposition all around, moreso for Charlene than for you.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05503978839912338538noreply@blogger.com