tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post3740967291345777134..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: Actually, this is SadChildfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-84158687697046463912012-12-04T17:22:27.436-08:002012-12-04T17:22:27.436-08:00Amen, sisters.Amen, sisters.SSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09640750760698553545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-35882171109942075622012-12-04T13:21:07.417-08:002012-12-04T13:21:07.417-08:00The childless people who think parents are former ...The childless people who think parents are former shells of themselves, or are sad and pathetic and have no lives are just as bad as the parents who push parenthood on childless people. <br />It reminds me of conversations I've had with many others about religion. I myself, am an atheist. Whenever I reveal this to someone religious, they quickly try to change my mind or tell me that I am sad Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07624378070384786433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-11791279559330493532012-08-03T12:05:34.365-07:002012-08-03T12:05:34.365-07:00I agree, and it's so sad that so many women ha...I agree, and it's so sad that so many women have put their full identity into their children. They have no idea who they are, how to have a conversation that isn't 100% about their children, (or childbirth, love those conversations!) and many do become completely empty when their children leave the house because they don't know who they are. As a childfree, others calling my life CLPhotohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08969489445489775074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-55625232066874640212012-06-14T10:43:39.279-07:002012-06-14T10:43:39.279-07:00And Lovelife, thank you for being among the (seemi...And Lovelife, thank you for being among the (seemingly) minority of reasonable parents!!! Beautiful input!jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13899625892623617862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-69929713744083803112012-06-14T10:42:45.298-07:002012-06-14T10:42:45.298-07:00I know I'm coming in late, but THANK YOU for h...I know I'm coming in late, but THANK YOU for having a post like this on your blog that I can come back to to cool my jets.<br /> <br />A (now ex) Facebook friend posted this (I'm sure you've seen, it wasn't my first time):<br />http://bobhyatt.typepad.com/.a/6a00d8341cd56753ef0134856e6482970c-800wi<br /> <br />This is a girl that I've known to be reasonable, intelligent, and jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13899625892623617862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-29063241492411313822012-05-20T12:14:36.026-07:002012-05-20T12:14:36.026-07:00Wow Lovelife had a great point. You can't ask ...Wow Lovelife had a great point. You can't ask another person to responsible for your happiness. It seems like that is what this mom is asking her kids to do i.e. make her heart "full".Cameron Grey Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13566322105432609872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-89220047570255264432012-05-17T14:43:37.273-07:002012-05-17T14:43:37.273-07:00Just post back the card you received from your mom...Just post back the card you received from your mom on the newest post. Bingo!Artemishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14458069887923029109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-50120399762074873642012-05-16T17:46:48.927-07:002012-05-16T17:46:48.927-07:00This is a GREAT blog what a heated topic over a Fa...This is a GREAT blog what a heated topic over a Facebook post. I will be honest when I read the post I thought it was cute. I never once took the word empty literally. I just thought this persons heart is full of love for their children. My husband and I are best friends and struggled with two failed pregnancies to achieve our goal of being parents. To say our hearts would be empty without Lovelifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12617867929336706298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-82698996753867132032012-05-14T11:56:47.100-07:002012-05-14T11:56:47.100-07:00That IS sad. I'd tell that person to reevaluat...That IS sad. I'd tell that person to reevaluate their life up to this point. If the only way you can find meaning and love is to reproduce, you're doing something wrong. I work, call my mom often, play with my cats, read, spend time with my friends, study Islam and the Qur'an, and run 5K charity races. My heart is full and I am very happy with my life, though my wallet is rather emptyHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17017554278813071029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-26313074090364560452012-05-12T18:09:34.662-07:002012-05-12T18:09:34.662-07:00"By the way, I did post a reply on my friend&..."By the way, I did post a reply on my friend's facebook page. I posted:<br /><br />"How does John feel about this?"<br /><br />(her husband)"<br /><br />That's a good reply!kangamasfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09346266043526700231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-79664865599600287522012-05-11T13:47:31.470-07:002012-05-11T13:47:31.470-07:00Yes, indeed. Without kids, my heart is empty of:
...Yes, indeed. Without kids, my heart is empty of: <br /><br />regret, bitterness, sadness about my life, boredom, misery, the feeling of being trapped in my own home, envy of childfree people, jealousy of independent people, nostalgia for my life before kids, etc.<br /><br />So, yes, your heart is full. In fact, I'd say in general you're full (of _____)Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-72903597941257439282012-05-11T10:54:22.935-07:002012-05-11T10:54:22.935-07:00I think that's only for people that stop their...I think that's only for people that stop their lives once they have kids. My parents raise us to be polite and clean after our mess, they work hard, have money and believe that part of being good parents was working to be better persons, with career, social life and hobbies. The mistake with parents in the US is that they believe been a good parent is been the child slave. Big mistake... nowBuckle Vehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06592878301012434391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-32305747956682223312012-05-10T12:25:37.118-07:002012-05-10T12:25:37.118-07:00That is insanely sad. I can't believe how man...That is insanely sad. I can't believe how many people (especially women) out there seem to totally ignore their spouses once they have kids. My response to that post would be something like:<br />"I'm sorry your husband doesn't fill your heart with love anymore".Spectrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867094255953299465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-53117326856859943302012-05-10T03:44:15.537-07:002012-05-10T03:44:15.537-07:00It is so sad they feel empty if they don't hav...It is so sad they feel empty if they don't have a dependant to look after. What about their life before having children? Didn't it make any sense until they gave birth?<br />A friend of mine from university told me when she had her first child that she was much happier now than in the past. I couldn't help but feeling a bit sad. I had good memories from us together, sharing Irehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08734359627836257734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-65659262906217373992012-05-09T14:20:42.323-07:002012-05-09T14:20:42.323-07:00*sigh* This is why I barely go to my fakebook pag...*sigh* This is why I barely go to my fakebook page anymore. Especially THIS week. People have become SO thoughtless and immature thanks to phucking phacebook.<br /><br />I'm another believer in 'to each his or her own'. Unfortunately, the majority always rules. I wouldn't even grace something as stupid as that post with any of my thoughts.Sea_creaturehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337406816003941140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-89780999534349736282012-05-09T11:54:08.053-07:002012-05-09T11:54:08.053-07:00I think I just read the saddest comment I've e...I think I just read the saddest comment I've ever seen in print. <br /><br />An article today in the Daily Mail (UK) is entitled "The broody men left bereft by wives with high-flying careers who refuse to have babies"<br /><br />One of the men profiled in the story states, "I was desperate for the sense of purpose and achievement that fatherhood brings."<br /><br />I thinkLisa S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01257037747576478852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-43291178238688757152012-05-09T11:46:10.351-07:002012-05-09T11:46:10.351-07:00P.S. This sentiment is probably most insulting to ...P.S. This sentiment is probably most insulting to childless people who want children but are unable to have them. This says their hearts are empty. Harsh.Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-88582164115797545002012-05-09T11:43:37.580-07:002012-05-09T11:43:37.580-07:00Sorry for the multiple postings. I just keep think...Sorry for the multiple postings. I just keep thinking of more things to say about this image.<br /><br />I wonder why parents would ever feel the need to tell each other these things. I mean, if it is obviously so worth it, why would you have to keep reminding each other that it's worth it? There muse be quite a few parents out there wondering if they really made the right decision.....Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-61427654796905990812012-05-09T11:40:18.509-07:002012-05-09T11:40:18.509-07:00I must be doing something wrong. My wallet is empt...I must be doing something wrong. My wallet is empty and my house is messy and I'm childfree....Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-48629711258511900152012-05-09T11:37:32.792-07:002012-05-09T11:37:32.792-07:00The statement can't really be proven one way o...The statement can't really be proven one way or the other. You can't set up a controlled experiment where in one life you have kids and in the other you don't.<br /><br />My reply would be:<br />"Only one way to find out!"<br /><br />Or<br /><br />"Not true so far!"<br /><br />Or<br /><br />"Don't knock it till you try it."Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-370190609453936132012-05-09T08:54:46.647-07:002012-05-09T08:54:46.647-07:00Even if we accept for the moment that people with ...Even if we accept for the moment that people with kids are somehow happier or have their hearts "fuller" that doesn't diminish the happiness and fullness we currently have.<br /><br />Supposing that every myth they tell us were true, that they are in fact so much happier that they were, by comparison, miserable before they had children and that we who do not want children would JBradshawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16357843373262792921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-57171099762731419522012-05-09T07:14:14.319-07:002012-05-09T07:14:14.319-07:00Since mothers seem to be of the opinion they can p...Since mothers seem to be of the opinion they can post all they want on the joys of motherhood, I was debating putting up the link to one of my favorite posts on this blog on my FB. Gee, I wonder what the results would be!? I guarantee at least twenty moms get up in arms over a woman choosing a different lifestyle since motherhood is, you know...a CHOICE. Rather than merely reading and in turn Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03595551641520639111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-91550722031821747662012-05-09T07:01:40.254-07:002012-05-09T07:01:40.254-07:00I would probably defriend that person as they are ...I would probably defriend that person as they are not a friend I would have anything in common with anyway. That is the dumbest statement I have heard in a while except for the one 'your life doesn't begin nor are you mature until you have a child.' I hate that one too.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14219939073737457839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-71123486189062367722012-05-09T05:30:32.497-07:002012-05-09T05:30:32.497-07:00I would say "Yes, look how miserable I am wit...I would say "Yes, look how miserable I am with my full wallet and clean house. I wonder why you are friends with me with my empty heart...." And leave it at that.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10356227051559253650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-24167089379820102662012-05-09T05:18:03.595-07:002012-05-09T05:18:03.595-07:00I would never have the courage/gall to say these t...I would never have the courage/gall to say these things, but sometimes I'd love to:<br /><br />"Do you think the mothers of rapists and murderers of other people's children have full hearts too?"<br /><br />"If your children turn out to be failures or a$$holes who hate you, will your heart still be full?"<br /><br />"Wow, maybe you should talk to some other Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14614900685752584449noreply@blogger.com