tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post3236394863615260390..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: Parent Worship Further DeconstructedChildfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-71115833704646566322012-10-08T16:18:27.664-07:002012-10-08T16:18:27.664-07:00Hmmm. Praise for good parenting? Absolutely. As in...Hmmm. Praise for good parenting? Absolutely. As in, praise for doing anything well, will make the person who did it feel good. Nothing wrong with that. Especially as there seem to be so many BAD parents around, praise for the good ones helps to differentiate the good from the bad, and rewards those who bring their kids up well, when they could have chosen not to do so, and pays them in gratitude hybrid756https://www.blogger.com/profile/06785000843521746440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-57519748525767719672009-06-01T14:16:14.640-07:002009-06-01T14:16:14.640-07:00I so totally agree with this post, and I also tend...I so totally agree with this post, and I also tend to make the argument about why parents should not be blindly treated like gods and goddesses for having children based on the fact that child abuse is still a huge problem. People have kids and then use them as a release of their hatred and rage at whoever/whatever else. Or bringing a child into a home where domestic violence, even if not acted scapegoathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12245780065971072546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-77414072823386208602009-05-19T10:57:00.000-07:002009-05-19T10:57:00.000-07:00I completely agree that deciding to have children ...I completely agree that deciding to have children is <I>always</I> rooted in selfishness. Philosophically, one could argue, and many have, that there is no such thing as a truly selfless act. I have no problem with the concept of Mother’s Day (or Father’s Day). As humans, we like to be praised even if it is for things that we are expected to do. It makes us feel good with which there is djmisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16004501762436897210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-18247480713823408932009-05-12T13:20:00.000-07:002009-05-12T13:20:00.000-07:00Another excellent post. I couldn't agree more!
My...Another excellent post. I couldn't agree more!<br /><br />My bf's mother has swallowed this "parent worship" idea wholesale. Every time one of her kids is rotten to her (usually the same one), she cries and says, "why are they doing this to me?" <br /><br />She ignores advice along the lines of, "you know this is going to happen, so why do you put up with it?" Not what she wants to hear. She fireflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08288800598812287691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-28291808183425778162009-05-12T06:47:00.000-07:002009-05-12T06:47:00.000-07:00Exactly! I've had the same thought before re: the...Exactly! I've had the same thought before re: the whole undyingly grateful bit.<br /> <br />While I do for the most part love my life - my husband, my friends, my home, and my parents - and, yes, I am grateful to have all these things - however, I did not <I>ask</I> to be born. Nobody did me a <I>selfless favor</I> by bringing me into this world. I didn't have a choice in the matter.<br /> <Gumbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15777638943346918789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-46732596920064679802009-05-12T01:39:00.000-07:002009-05-12T01:39:00.000-07:00It irritates me to the core to see people praised ...It irritates me to the core to see people praised for things I do 100x better, so I know how you feel! It's just not fair. And that "but you know you're doing what's right..." cliche that our parents taught us--that's no consolation. Speaking of selflessness: letting people get the undeserved praise they get is selfless! ;)<br /><br />No one does anything for purely selfless motives--even most eyemandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16639859329294555233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-62480834090874788182009-05-11T16:39:00.000-07:002009-05-11T16:39:00.000-07:00Wow...awesome post. Truly thought-provoking. You...Wow...awesome post. Truly thought-provoking. You are dead-on, as usual!CFVixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777723818313211020noreply@blogger.com