tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post2392578735406081201..comments2023-10-29T08:17:42.840-07:00Comments on Childfreedom: Keep Running (it prevents thinking)Childfreeeeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-42399351517602659272011-05-08T06:41:32.284-07:002011-05-08T06:41:32.284-07:00I asked a friend (not a close friend, more of an a...I asked a friend (not a close friend, more of an acquaintance) years ago:<br />"So how did you decide when you wanted to have kids?" and her serious answer, no joke was..."Umm, I am getting tired of going to the pub."<br /><br />In effect..."I'm bored."<br /><br />What?!<br /><br />Her poor, lovely little girl was born with serious congenital heart defects later jilrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16768799238918375532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-35708349917849835042009-08-03T09:37:55.377-07:002009-08-03T09:37:55.377-07:00I wholeheartedly agree. Your thoughts echo my own...I wholeheartedly agree. Your thoughts echo my own, which I also posted a few weeks ago.<br /><br />http://stellatex.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-resisting-motherhood/Stellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02636597142623332718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-87997698637008021752009-07-16T10:32:32.247-07:002009-07-16T10:32:32.247-07:00In his comedy special, "Never Scared," C...In his comedy special, "Never Scared," Chris Rocks opens by mentioning that he had a baby girl since he toured (which of course received a round of applause). He followed that by saying, "Now, it's not a big deal, I mean, even roaches have kids."<br /><br />Word. Not that parenthood isn't hard, but sometimes we act like we're the only creatures on Earth that flamencokittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07665114298186254835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-62865781435642175802009-07-07T09:59:32.725-07:002009-07-07T09:59:32.725-07:00Just look how long Tina's post is. As usual, ...Just look how long Tina's post is. As usual, ye doth protest too much. Go back to your 'amazing life' and get out of the childfree space.Sea_creaturehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337406816003941140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-54184429594072591632009-07-03T16:55:24.780-07:002009-07-03T16:55:24.780-07:00YOU "wanted to experience creating a life, b...YOU "wanted to experience creating a life, birthing a life, teaching this new life the ways of the world"?<br /><br />This is the most self-important, entitled BS I have ever heard. <br /><br />'Selfish procreation' is another aspect of career fulfillment, with the emphasis on YOU and what YOU want to do with that child. <br /><br />Any idea whether that child wanted to be bornfireflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08288800598812287691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-49259599641299864222009-07-03T14:23:29.611-07:002009-07-03T14:23:29.611-07:00Tina:
QUOTE: CFVixen, "they feel the rest o...Tina:<br /><br />QUOTE: CFVixen, "they feel the rest of the world should be awed at their 'contribution'. Thank you also for your moronic statement. Would you like some more b/s with your toast? END QUOTE<br /><br />Exactly what is moronic about my statement? Care to elaborate? Because in case you haven't noticed, this is a CHILDFREE BLOG which discusses how child-centric theCFVixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777723818313211020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-2417980084684198892009-07-03T07:46:13.876-07:002009-07-03T07:46:13.876-07:00Tina,
I am happy to hear that there is a parent o...Tina,<br /><br />I am happy to hear that there is a parent out there who is living a fulfilling life that isn't completely consumed with their kids. You are a apparently a rare exception to the rule. Of all the parents I know (and most people I know are parents), NONE are living the way you are living. I am not generalizing. I know about 20 sets of parents in my immediate circle and none Childfreeeeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-49670386349356487322009-07-03T07:27:28.265-07:002009-07-03T07:27:28.265-07:00"If a person doesn’t have the fortitude for i..."If a person doesn’t have the fortitude for it, kids are a safe choice."<br /><br />Had to address this stupid comment too. <br /><br />I'm not the only parent who can say this, there are most likely thousands like me, but I have lived (and STILL live) an amazing and meaningful life. I've achieved a lot of my dreams, big and small and I'm still working on down that list. Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16350129644874147542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-51249140744956857562009-07-03T07:20:06.223-07:002009-07-03T07:20:06.223-07:00I have a life that is rich in travel, beauty, love...I have a life that is rich in travel, beauty, love and friendship. <br /><br />I have my own business based on my passion; photography. I travelled a lot and photographed the most interesting people I will ever meet in this life. <br /><br />When I decided to have a child, it wasn't from 'lack of anything to do' or 'to fill a void'. Truth be told, I have yet to meet anyone whoTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16350129644874147542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-70288642951447693852009-07-02T07:48:47.008-07:002009-07-02T07:48:47.008-07:00Thanks for all the comments so far, everyone.
I t...Thanks for all the comments so far, everyone.<br /><br />I think what Dave might be getting at is that most people are simple and in a sense, boring - particularly married couples with kids. They have children to create some interest and meaning in their lives because otherwise, they just don't have anything interesting going on. I look at a lot of couples I know who have kids and like DaveChildfreeeeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01776614837813912148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-6006394515466824962009-07-02T06:28:43.517-07:002009-07-02T06:28:43.517-07:00Dave, so... your point is that without children ma...Dave, so... your point is that without children marriages don't survive because the couples have nothing to talk about? <br /><br />Oh-kay.Phoenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05174871050139515912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-43083359587269755472009-07-01T09:37:15.441-07:002009-07-01T09:37:15.441-07:00Good post, the way I've always looked at it is...Good post, the way I've always looked at it is to imagine how many of my married (with children) friends would still be married if it weren't for the kids. If you take the kids out of the equation I think there would be a lot more conversation-less dinners. Kids give them something to talk about.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10744988620717201253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-80946771382441079432009-06-30T16:05:49.017-07:002009-06-30T16:05:49.017-07:00Thank you for a wonderful post. As I watch the 15...Thank you for a wonderful post. As I watch the 15th stroller slave of the day pass my office window, I wonder... What the hell is the point? We don't NEED any more people. I wonder how long it'll take us to get it through our thick skulls. It's just all so selfish to me.Sea_creaturehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337406816003941140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-16824196403212849032009-06-30T15:57:48.485-07:002009-06-30T15:57:48.485-07:00Beautiful essay! I’ve thought about all of these ...Beautiful essay! I’ve thought about all of these things, although I could never have expressed them as coherently.<br /><br />Creating a life is tough. Your goal is not guaranteed, whether that is advanced education, groundbreaking research, or excelling in the arts. At every step of the way, in addition to setting aside immediate gratification for the sake of your goal, you have people who Schrodinger's Kittenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05254361271490888350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-53874366917492154652009-06-30T08:17:48.139-07:002009-06-30T08:17:48.139-07:00I agree that many people have children in order to...I agree that many people have children in order to create meaning in their lives. What surprises me even more are those who <b>should</b> have meaningful lives but still find something missing without children.<br /><br />I had a friend who claimed to not want children and who had a great life... master's degree, wonderful career that she enjoyed, volunteer work, loving husband, etc. After I.am.freehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08471958566515922377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-20610170801056876932009-06-30T07:05:58.881-07:002009-06-30T07:05:58.881-07:00Great post, thanks! This echoes my own sentiments...Great post, thanks! This echoes my own sentiments about many people who have kids; they just don't seem to GET IT, they just don't seem to LIVE. Your post reminds me of one of my favorite quotes from Henry David Thoreau, "It is not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: What are we busy <i>ABOUT?</i>" To me, the meaning of life is <i>meaning</i> itself and so absurdnerdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00820576531224020717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-15964240190222708642009-06-30T05:54:50.651-07:002009-06-30T05:54:50.651-07:00I had a boyfriend who figured that a lot of people...I had a boyfriend who figured that a lot of people have kids because they're bored with life, and/or they simply don't give any thought to their lifestyle choices. Despite that revelation, he went on to marry, have kids, a mortgage, and all the other trappings of this society. It amazes me just how strong societal conditioning is. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-7825244134315664102009-06-29T07:38:58.554-07:002009-06-29T07:38:58.554-07:00Brava. I have had thoughts along similar lines, an...Brava. I have had thoughts along similar lines, and this post really expresses it beautifully. <br /><br />I saw this up close and personal recently when my 21yo nephew, wife of 1 year, and 4 mo son came back to visit. Neither have gone on to secondary school; he's in the military and she is Full-Time Mom.<br /><br />Why? I think they just didn't know what else to do with themselves. <br fireflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08288800598812287691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155688048560818982.post-90243192466496140832009-06-29T05:48:20.274-07:002009-06-29T05:48:20.274-07:00Another great post. In a very simplified sense, I...Another great post. In a very simplified sense, I often think of parenthood (for many people) as a hobby. They wanted something to fill their lives. They work all day, and come home and night and feel the need for "something else." So they have kids. That definitely fills their time. But then they feel that the rest of the world should be awed at their "contribution."CFVixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777723818313211020noreply@blogger.com